I had posted earlier in Divorced/Divorcing but much less traffic over there.

In a nutshell I hope

Former wife filed for divorce last July. 7 days after getting a call from OM's wife. She basically threatened to kick her a&& and drag her in front of the Church should she ever stepped foot in there again. (She has not)

After some deep discussion and veiled threats about the nature of my relationship with our oldest daughter I figured it was time to let it go. I would not have my daughter dragged through garbage and interviews and lenghty court battles. That decision only came after much prayer and counsel that it would hurt the children and that eventually they would learn the truth anyway.

My wife quit her IC at that time as she no longer saw it necessary for counseling as she was out of the marriage. I keep going and continue to this day. My former was actually suprised when she discovered that about a month ago.

Anyway...divorce was final last September. On Spetember 20th she meets a guy who she believes God brought to her. (Her words...not mine) By mid October she was already heavily involved with him. Made the mistake of attempting to bring him into the children's life during that same time. He was there for Thanksgiving, Christmas, along with his mother and sister. It was only at the first of the year that she began to back off from forcing him on the children.

But. . . in the last month or so communication with her and between her has become more frequent. Where she usually did not call when I had the children she now calls most all the time. Even on the one night of the week that I get them which she has never done.

Easter Sunday, as she left Church early to have lunch with boyfriend and his mother she actually stopped and left a note on my car window. It actually had my name on the top. This IS NOT the woman I have been dealing with for well over 2 years now. She even finished it with "Have a nice day". The note did not state anything that we had not already discussed nor did it bring up any new issues. Just a note.

Today...I find out that she is back in counseling. With the person who was recommended to us as a joint counselor when we were both in IC. Good or bad I have no idea but this lady and the IC I see now are in the same office.

But I guess what I am really asking...is there hope that after all this time she is beginning to have doubts about this divorce thing? Is it possible that reconciliation might still be possible? I know I hope so and I know the children desire the same thing.

I guess I just see it as a positive step. For well over 2 years she refused to participate fully, every thing was my fault and if she could just get me out then everything would be fixed.

Make any sense?

Yes...I am patiently waiting and improving daily. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />