This is unbelievable. As anyone who is familiar with my situation, my WW gave me a separation letter which I posted. I took a day and a half to carefully craft my response trying to express my inner most feelings with her.

Anyway, beside posting a draft of my response on this site, I sent it to my brother just so he could see whether I was LBing. I was very emotional writing my response. I took my eldest Daughter to a Daddy/daughter dance last night. While I was there, she snooped and saw that I sent her letter, with my resposes, to my brother. She was pissed. I'm sure she feels violated and that she can't trust me. I can understand this. But I assured her that my responses were mine and mine alone. That they came from MY heart. She also finds that I have been trying to call the OMs wife to make sure that she knows. My wife was furious and said I had no right to try an break up their marriage. Huh??? I said that had nothing to do with me. I said this woman had a right to know what I knew and that I would be fighting for my M. She felt I crossed a line, I disagreed.

I finished my letter and she said she wanted to read it ( she says she didn't read it last night which would be good because I changed a few things). What bothers me here is that I feel my letter has lost all its bite because she is angry right now and feels violated by me sending her intimate thoughts to my brother and his wife. Now what the hell do I do????

Huh? SHE feels she can't trust YOU??? Fogese.

Tell her that by not wanting to tell OM's W she is in effect more concerned about OM than you. She is protecting him while ignoring your feelings and needs.

cwmac

I guess I need to clarify...I have been told by my WW that OMs W does know about the A but doesn't know who it was with. This may all be true but I just can't trust OM to be truthful about anything.OMs W supposedly is choosing to stick her head in the sand and pretend nothing is wrong. Again, she needs to know what I know and decide if she wants to believe any of it.

IGP, Even if your wife read the letter last night, it won't decrease the power of it. In fact, some letters' power grows with rereading.

In fact, many letters written here don't bear fruit for several weeks or months.

I wish you good luck.