Hi All,

It's been about 2 weeks since my last post. My WW is still seeing OM and has decided to move out with DD to think things out. We have together bought a house for her stay. I will stay with my DS where we are now and am also planning to look for another house as the place I'm staying now is working on my nerves and I want to get away from bad memories.

At the moment I'm still nice to her and hope to win her back on my side, but this doesn't seem to be happening. I still love her very much and will accept her back with open arms at the moment. I have been able to put my anger aside and was often temped to freak out. I have thought of compiling a nasty email (actually the truth) and sending it to all my friends who are unaware of the A and our broken relationship, but refrained from doing so as this would just make matters worse for myself.

She is quite headstrong and I think she's made up her mind to be more involved with OM. I have told my W parents of the A and they are very upset and had a face to face talk with WW early this week. This didn't deter her from the A and recons that if they can't cope with it, then it is their problem, not hers.

I've now decided not to stop the A as any reasoning is just upsetting me more. The less I think of what is going on, be better I feel. I'll let nature take it's course and hopefully she'll fall on her back side and wake up to find that her coffee has gone cold. I think by that time it will be too late for me to get involved with her again. Pity.

After 15 years so many memories. Sob.

I've joined a gym yesterday. Maybe my future is walking round somewhere . . .

I think it is a little early to go into Plan B, unless you are losing your love for her, and finding yourself LB'ing.

Hi Alex,

If I may ask,why did you help WW buy a house to live in? If it's her choice to move out,then dont'help her.She should face any hardships that are brought out due to her Adultery.If that means she has to move back in with her parents or live with OM or whatever.Don't make it easier for her.Also,if I were you I would seriously question your WW taking your DD.She is the one in an A and is not thinking clearly or in the best interests of her child.As we all know,WS's are all about themselves and their infatuation.

I would bet that she may be planning for OM to go live with her or at the very least,have someplace to meet that is not in YOUR marriage home.Again,why I would not agree to DD living with her.Your WW may try to expose her to this OM.Do you want that?? If your WW wants to live with OM or have him around more often,then that might just be the way to put an end to the A faster once they really get to know each other and all the habits.But I would not let my DD be in a situation like that.

Also,until she moves out,I hope you are doing your best Plan A.I agree with believer that Plan B is a way off.If WW does move in to her new house and OM ends up there,then Plan B is in order.

You only just found out about the A last month,give yourself more time alex.It is too soon to start expecting much and definitely don't go looking for the next walking relationship.Stear clear of women,ok? You know that is not appropriate anymore than what your WW is doing now,you'll only get hurt.

O

P.S. If these friends you mentioned are mutual friends and could have some influence on WW breaking off the A,then tell them.You may also get some much needed support in the process.