okay kati, but i was the first one to suggest he take a vacation by himself <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> at least on this thread anyway <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

tinman, now you know for the most part, so if she tells you something later or something else happens to indicate she's going on vacation, you won't be surprised and you will expect it and DEAL with it the right way. i can already say that i'm sure my H and the OW are g oing to be doing lots of things together this summer, especially since he won't be in school and she will be turning 21 in august. oh well, like kati said it's a vacation for them and not reality.

i know, i know, things are always easier said then done, but we want to follow our words w/actions, so take another deep breath and continue your course down this rough road <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> and come here and ask us all the questions you want and discuss all the things you feel you need to talk about. seriously look into some vacation deals for yourself or w/a male friend. prayers to you.

I would like to go on vacation but I only have 2 weeks worth of vacation and I'm holding on to it just in case my W does come back so we can just hop in the truck and get away from our problems so we can spend time with each other and reconnect. I know this is a long shot but that's why I'm holding on to it. I know maybe a dumb reason. I also have alot going on at work right now deadlines around the corner.

<small>[ May 07, 2004, 10:56 AM: Message edited by: The Tinman ]</small>

Hi Tinman,

I've had some very stressful vacations - especially those in another country. There are usually some problems that come up and people tend to get more annoyed at their traveling companions. When you travel, a person's true personality usually comes out at some point. Maybe your W will get a dose of reality and see some of the OM's bad traits.

Songbird

Thanks Songbird one can only hope. If not oh well I know that I'm doing the right thing so I will stay strong knowing that. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

One other thing I heard that one of my W bosses got laid off for a bit. He had to make trips out of country often so I now wonder if she has to go on some of these trips. I know I shouldn't worry about it.