Haven't posted in sometime.

Long story short:
-Discovered EA (internet) April 2002 (a few weeks before 2nd anniversary)
-Separation came immediately
-WH met OW in person 3 x (he flew to her, she flew to him, etc.)
-He always said they were "just friends"
-WH filed for divorce (I asked for it)
-Divorce final August 15, 2002
-Husband moved out of town (I assumed OW's city, but couldn't prove it)
-I started annulment process immediately after divorce (September 02)
-Annulment confirmed/final Feb 04 (ALOT of painful work involved)

So now here I am. Happy and more importantly, HEALTHY. In a healthy relationship with a great man.

I have stumbled upon information that proves the A was WAY more than I even thought. Almost as though they planned him moving there for quite a while. And they do indeed have a place together and live in another city/state.

It's quite a relief for me. I had always suspected it in a way, but had no proof. And to top it off, there are pics of them on the web (g-rated thank goodness)! And she is not what I expected AT ALL. Quite a bit older (and she looks it) from my XH (14 years maybe) and NOT very attractive. Which really surprised me since he was always "into" how he appeared to everyone else.

Anyway - Has anyone discovered the junk years later? Boy, I wish I would have had some of this info back when we were separated.

Would it have changed the outcome? No, we'd still be divorced. I've come to grips emotionally and spiritually that we were never really "married" to each other. More like roommates. The "S" factor wasn't happening on my end.

I'm a better person for the experience I've had and I'm thankful for all the goodness that surrounds me now.

Would love to hear from anyone.

Thanks,
Llama

<small>[ May 07, 2004, 04:18 PM: Message edited by: Ms.O ]</small>

***Secrets come to surface nearly two years after Sep/Div*** Let's discuss

I don't mean to sound rude or anything, but why do you want to discuss this? If it wouldn't have changed anything, why do you want to talk about it?

Especially if you really are moving/moved on....why not just roll your eyes <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> and drop it? You can't change him, your marriage or anything at this point...you can just be aware that your gut feeling was right and that in itself is a learning thing and something you can be glad you now know you can trust.

Other than that, I personally wouldn't even let it be a blip on the radar screen of my life....

<small>[ May 07, 2004, 04:16 PM: Message edited by: Ms.O ]</small>