Hi mom,

I wanted to post a response to your question here instead of on the other thread,it may have been lost amongst all the other posts.

Regarding the OP seeing my children.From the beginning,when this A happened,I made it abundantly clear that my daughters were not to be exposed to this HW and my WH agreed.At the time,this HW lived in Toronto so the likelyhood of her being near my kids was nil.Even now,it is still an agreed upon subject for several reasons, such as I would not stand for it( I would get a court order to keep her away unless we were divorcing.After a D there's nothing you can do unless OP is abusive toward the children),my WH knows that my In-Laws would not approve either and that weighs on his mind,I don't think he knows for sure if he is going to keep on with this adultery so he is not risking the interaction and I also think,in a small way,he knows this would be very confusing and hurtful to the girls,especially since I have not told the girls that there is a homewrecking sl** in the picture.

Those are the reasons thus far and I have not had any articles or information to back up my decision,except that our counselor also agreed with no exposure.

So,that is how I am handling things right now and so far my WH hasn't given me any trouble but he knows I will freak out if he tries to bring her around.I Honestly don't think he even wants to.I have this feeling that when he is with the HW(which by now is only one weekend per month if that)she doesn't want to be bothered by anyone when she is with her married man.That would ruin the little disgusting,PUTRID fantasy meeting right?! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> Grrrr.

O