I have to say this here, because I couldn’t say it at home with WW around. Today we told our 6 yr. old son that mommy and daddy are moving apart. That mommy is going to live in her own house. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> Very sad emotional time for me, but so far he seems to be absorbing it as well as can be expected.

So S says to me later, completely out of the blue and not related to the move at all: “Daddy, could you move the T.V. outside?” I gave him an odd look and asked why I would be doing that. He taunted me saying: “You’re not strong enough” then laughed and said, “I know, you’re so strong you can lift mommy” It was all I could do to keep from yelling: “Apparently anyone can pick her up!!!!!”

Plan A Plan A Plan A Plan A Plan A Plan A……Lord give me strength.

ok, it was soooo good that you *didn't* say it...but it really is funny! At least you can laugh.

Hugs.

bwahahahaaa! Good one, Binder! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Hi Binder - what was the reason for the move as told to your son?

This topic represents my biggest regreet - thet we didn't tell the WHOLE truth.

I hope you did better...........

Welcome back WAT. We left it fairly ambiguous. I could not bring myself to letting him know the truth. Some perverse sense of responsibility to protect him from his mother’s indiscretions I guess. Don’t try to change my mind; I could not blow apart his world with that. Also, if she does come to her senses, I can’t imagine how to restore that relationship if I’d done that.

By the way, you were right about the sincerity of OM going to marriage counseling and saving his marriage. I checked the voice mail of WW, as soon as he flew to a new town on his way to Vegas, he was calling her. Apparently they are laying low till the dust settles. I gathered from the message she was going to be going with him until the exposure. I’ve spoken to the OMW prior, she still seems determined to save the marriage, but I don’t know if she’ll take the advice I’m getting from everyone posting.

I believe she is starting to consider the level of involvement of the two and I am gaining some credibility in her eyes. I’m going to speak with her again and get her to send a plan A letter to OM and WW, also to sell her on exposure down there. As long as she wants to save her marriage, she may want to work together.

<small>[ May 09, 2004, 06:00 PM: Message edited by: Binder ]</small>

Sorry I was right.

But, pretty typical.

OMW may be in a certain level of denial - I know I was early on despite OMW arguing to the contrary.

Stay the high road. Heck, send her a copy of SAA. Can't hurt. Just the title gets attention. Maybe OM will see it and worry.......

WAT