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Do you ever find yourself wishing your WS could not speak? It would be a lot easier to not have to listen to all of the fog they spout.
My intermeiary told me today that H is sad he is missing out on the things for our coming baby. That he is soul searching and feels bad for hurting me. If he feels sad know missing out on our child I can't wait until delivery day. He can come visit.
The OW is going through her D right now. Moving out of her home. She gave up her son and only sees him every other weekend. Classy lady.
I am doing well staying dark in Plan B. I haven't spoke to him in 10 days and counting. I think of it as a challenge. It gives me some control over my crazy life.
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durham sounds like your feeling better about yourself. One other thing I would do would go totally dark, tell your intermediate person you don't care what your H says or thinks about your situation and how much he's missing out, only business dealings. That was his decision and when you get told this it make's you feel bad so don't get personal info on how he feels. He made his bed let him lay in it. Hang in there you sound better though good job.
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durham -
Stay dark - do not let him know what you are thinking. That is the best way to bring him back. Also try checking out saveyourmarriagecentral. You can get an intermediary there that will stick completely to business.
I think you are doing extremely well. Are you eating well? We only want the best for our MB baby. Have you picked out any names? Are you getting all of the baby things?
This is such an exciting time in life, don't let WH's crazy behavior bother you. I think he will be back.
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I think I am doing pretty well so far. I have been getting the nursery ready and focusing on my baby. I am a little nervous about the summer as I am a teacher and will have lots of free time. I may get a part time job.
I am staying dark for sure. I don't want to hear anything he has to say.
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durham, I am very proud of you and think you are doing a wonderful job. Did you find some way to clean the cat box? Maybe you could consider getting a REAL PET, like a nice lab?? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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Soul searching! It isn't his soul-searching that's the problem! It's the adultery!
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