Not wanting to hijack LO thread, but to talk about triggers. LO is talking about someone not acknowledgming 2 POV's in a "good" marriage (correct me if I am wrong <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> )
LowOrbit sez quote:
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I'm a little touchy about statements like this, because it basically tells your spouse that regardless of how they feel, they're wrong and have no right to feel that way.
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I get this but.....
WH is out of town, due back today. I took the opportunity to clean out a couple of drawers that were packed with 'stuff"
So, most of the stuff I find is cards and photos from the last few years. I keep finding these valentines, b'day, anniversary cards to me from him during the time of his A. filled with notes, promsises of our passionate love and future, thanking me for my support, hard work, etc. Pix of us together looking happy and relaxed, on vacations, with family and friends.
It made me very angry and sad!
I told him this on the phone, and instead of understanding where I was coming from he turned it around as I was telling him he does everything wrong! I finally asked - was it all a lie these last few years between us?
NO! He insists he loves me.
Well, why is he remembering us as being so unhappy during this time!?
He is due home today. I need hugs and cuddles, not someone feeling like he is failing. right now I do not have the energy to build him up. I have had the house and kids on my own for 5 days, he has been fishing and working and eating out every night. selfishly - I feel like it is MY turn.
(just venting)
