Thanks ML. We have a temporary order now that give me the everyother weekend plan. My attorney gives me 70/30 odds against me getting custody in court, in this state it doesn't make much difference that she is having an affair- that just proves that she is a bad wife, not a bad mother. She has admitted to her attorney and her attorney to mine that she is having an A and my attorney says further spying isn't neccesary. Her attorney told her to "cool it". My attorney says that she contines just shows that she doesn't listen. I am going to talk to him about getting proof of their vacation planned for Late July, a couple of weeks before scheduled DV-Day.
I have exposed her As to everyone I can get to listen and some that won't. She works for our local public school in administration, OM works for State Education Dept. Her boss, the school superintedent knows and has helped her hook up with him and she and her new husband have been to dinner a few times with WS and OM. The 4 of them were together a few days the week of spring break, pre my D-Day. I have told a few school board members of her current A and it dosen't sit too well with them but I don't want her to lose her job, thats what keeps her and the kids close. Since he works for the state, his computer is considered public property and anything on it is public information (I am a state employee also, different Dept., and expect to get the same any time now). I did a Freedom of Information Request on him, which goes through Legal Counsel of that Dept. OM and I have the same last name and I got a call from the Geneeral Counsel of that Dept. and he asked if OM and I are related and I very quickly and clearly informed him that we are not relaated, he is having an affair with my wife. I have been told that if I can prove WS and OM were in a relationship before 12/10/03 (he was at our school on business and she was his self appointed tour guide) that it would be an extreme conflict of interest and he could lose his job. That is one of my goals in life. I have evidence that they were involved prior to 11/20/04 but no proof yet. I have not told her family, she has, but I doubt that they know the truth. I wasn't going to tell the kids unless they asked but she told them she had been "on a date with" OM, gave them his name and showed them a picture. My oldest cried himself to sleep that night. OM calls her all the time and when the kids answer the phone he tells them who he is and starts asking them questions. I have told them they don't have to talk to him if they don't want too, that they can hang up or lay the phone down and walk off.
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