<small>[ November 07, 2004, 09:06 AM: Message edited by: cipher ]</small>

There is no lovebuster too big when it comes to protecting your children or your financial interests. Plan A never means you do anything to appease them, but that you remain civil, polite and firm. Nothing more. Please do whatever it takes to protect your children, especially since she is taking drugs.

You are their ONLY hope right now.

<small>[ November 07, 2004, 09:06 AM: Message edited by: cipher ]</small>

Can't you appeal the decision?

This sucks.

Pep

Well....it's certainly going to put a damper on their relationship....not having as much time to spend together.

Another thing is how the kids are going to react to this OM.....might be a big downfall there also.

Have they ever met with the OM before?

What happened with the drug test? If you in any way thing that her drug habit will interfere with her ability to be a good mother then you definately need to request the drug test....LB or no LB....someone has to be a voice for the kids.

In some states also you can petition that the WS not be anywhere near the OP when they have the children....especially since you say he is the one that she gets her "stuff" from. That's something you might want to look into....not to punish the WS....but to protect the children.

<small>[ May 13, 2004, 03:46 PM: Message edited by: Miss Priss ]</small>

my lawyer will be asking for a drug test to be done on WW that she will not pass.

What happened to the drug test?

<small>[ November 07, 2004, 09:07 AM: Message edited by: cipher ]</small>

Call child protective services and request an evaluation of the kid's home environment because you suspect mother is using drugs.

Pep

should I move to Bolivia and escape the hurt(emotional and now finacial)?

I hope you're kidding here...

You have no option but to fight for your kids... they are in trouble and it is your job and your duty to fight for their welfare and their safety.

If you abandon them they have no functioning parent.

If your wife is using drugs and you run away to a foreign country... your kids pay the price.

This is no longer about saving the marriage. It is about saving your kids from a dangerous and harmful situation.

Gloves off... call child protective services.

Pep

Loveless.....what state are you in?

Pepperband is right about child protective services.

Your WS will see it as you getting revenge or whatever though.....given the state of mind she's in right now.

I know you want your family back....and you want your W back and may not want to do anything to make her terribly mad at you.....but think of the kids. What if this guy is a "dealer" and a deal goes bad. Would you want your children in the middle of something like that?

I didn't want to make my H mad either when we were seperated but my kids came first...and if I thought that he was putting them in danger emotionally or physically......well...he'd just have to be mad. He obviously didn't have his head on straight and couldn't think like a rational adult....so I had to be the bad guy. Like that was something new.

<small>[ May 13, 2004, 04:19 PM: Message edited by: Miss Priss ]</small>

<small>[ November 07, 2004, 09:07 AM: Message edited by: cipher ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by LovelessAlone:
<strong> All CSP would find at the moment would be a tiny little apparement, barren and clean, two good adult persons with bloodshot eyes, and my three beautiful children. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Doh! Too late to edit. I meant to say goofy, as in high, as I have often found them. Good is far from anything I would call these 2 people right now.

I don't know what state you are in so it's hard for me to say that this is so in your case.

When I went to file for abandonment and demand child support I also had to file for regular visitation and was asked what kind of environment my H lived in. I knew that my H did not have enough room for the girls at the place he was living. I was told that there had to be a BED for the children to sleep on....not on the floor....not on a couch.....but a bed....2 of them in fact since the little 2 could sleep together and the other for our oldest daughter. I was told that if he could not provide them then there would only be hourly visitation....no overnight stays.

I'm not sure how that could help your case....but that is what CPS told me.

Now....my sister went through something like this also....through a divorce....no A involved.
Her H got custody in the beginning because she couldn't provide for the kids financially, even with child support.
Her H moved into a 1 bedroom apt and the kids were sleeping in the living room. 2 of them, a boy and a girl.
He was told that he not only had to provide beds but seperate bedrooms for the children since they were of the oposite sex. Didn't matter that they were brother and sister. He didn't follow through because he couldn't afford to move...so my sister ended up with custody after moving in with our aunt who had a big house.

I for one don't think that you would abandon your children...don't get me wrong here....just telling you things from my experiences. Hoping something of it might help you out.

<small>[ November 07, 2004, 09:07 AM: Message edited by: cipher ]</small>