Wondering how you are doing and curious to know which personality of WH came back from the vacation. I saw your post that you were feeling anxious over his return, but it got a little off track and I didn't want to bump that up.

Bumping for WHB

Still thinking about you.

I just found out my WH took another mini vacation with his OW. He had to go to FL for work so he took a few extra days and she flew down to meet him. He tol d me she would not be there. I can't believe I expected a liar to tell the truth. Shame on me. Hope your sitch is much better than mine.

Oh, Jenn. I'm sorry. I really do feel your pain. I live in FL, so I'll make sure to send out some negative vibes.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I responded to my anxiety post - I've been kind of sidetracked lately, and haven't been on the boards. Suffice it to say that his vacation was "good" (he tried to say it with no enthusiasm, but I know he had fun).

The sucky part is that his A started just 2 weeks after we returned from our third cruise in late Sept. So I now know that the whole time on our cruise, he was probably seeing me in a different light - perhaps wishing that he were there with HER instead of me. That breaks my heart.

His beef about our cruise that time was that I spent most of the time with this other couple I met onboard (I am a social butterfly and he is not). While his recount is exaggerated, I NEVER would have spent time with ANYONE else but him had I known our marriage was in trouble. I was one of those ones that thought we had a great marriage. Anyway, he probably came home and bit@hed about it to her, so she knew exactly what NOT to do when they went. It just makes me sick that he's making vacation memories with her. We haven't been on many vacations, and the fact that he's already taken one with her, on the same ship we've been on before, just ick ick ick.

I'm trying to get control of my emotions as I've done more crying the past week than I have the past two months (thanks to anti-D's). Things seem to change so quickly in our highly charged emotional states. Once I can get those thoughts out of my head, I'll be much better.

When does your WH return?

BTW, thanks for your concern.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

- WHB

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I'm sorry to hear that they didn't have a terrible time. Fog or not I can't understand how they are not pressured by guilt constantly.

My WH is already back from FL. This was a trip from 2 weeks ago. The day he left I asked if she would be there he said no. I was upset he was missing our sons soccer game for the second time. I did some snooping found out the truth and confronted him. It was ugly. He had been honest previously about seeing her and I had handled it well I thought. I told him it hurt but thanks for being honest then dropped it, guess that doesn't work.

I can't imagine the pain of thinking he is making steps in the right direction to watching him shuffle back. It's no wonder your emotions are out of control. Try not to let it hinder your plan A. Wish you luck