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I have been doing an great plan A for about 4 weeks but tonight I destroyed it. I discovered a lie and confronted my WH.
I can't even remember everything that was discussed but I know I did plenty of damage. Somebody please tell me it can be overcome.
The affair has been exposed completely here on our end but I don't see it causing any problems in their fantasy life. He still is visiting her once or twice a month playing house. I just don't see any hope for my sitch. He says he is sorry for hurting me but I don't ever see him waffling. Most of the time I feel he's not fence sitting he is completely on her side. I guess I just need to read some success stories.
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Its okay to LB...nobody is perfect...but try to succeed in your Plan A. It is not easy...i have been there. I was terrible in Plan A.
Just remember this. Plan A is to fight OW. Everytime you LB you give OW the opportunity to win points and you lose. Keep that in mind then maybe you will be able to do a better plan A.
Another point...imagine you have two male friends...one showing anger and the other one showing care...which one will you choose??? Of course the caring one right so that is what you must do in plan A. Play the same game that OW is doing and play it better than HER!!!
I have posted the link to success stories in the success story thread...read them
take care
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jenn -
I think it helps to realize that with the A comes the lies. My WH is so sincere when he lies that I kept believing him. That would lead to some LB's when I found out the truth.
People on this board convinced me that my real H has been abducted by aliens. Now I expect WH to lie, and I don't get disappointed.
You just need to get right back into Plan A, and try it for a little longer. Then if there are no changes, time for Plan B. You will know the right time to do it.
Plan B is quite pleasant. You will get peace in your life again, and will not always be wondering what is true or not true.
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