I am 25 years old and have 4 year old twins and a 1 year old. My husband is 27 years old. My husband and I got married at a young age, because I was pregnant. We were together for 2 years before I was pregenant and always discussed getting married after school. We moved it up though, when I was pregnant. we moved to my home town Alabama. My husband was from CA. At first it was hard for him, being so far away from home,even though my immediate family & church family were receptive, and loved us.
We have been married for 4 years. When I was pregant with our 1 year old, my husband was against it. H wanted me to have an abortion or put her up for adoption. Abortion was a huge issue with us(mainly for him) when we were in school, but we decicded to have the kids. With this last pregnany my husband cheated. He cheated with 2 women. When i found out- 2 weeks after daughter was born, he promised to never do it again. We have gone to counseling periodically, but my husband has never commited to it wholeheartedly. I was living at the house for a while but moved out becuase I believed he was cheating again. ( perfume on clothes., coming in late, etc.) I have lived with my mother for 7 months now. Our apt. has sat empty, becuase I believe he lives with the other girl. However, he acts as if he wants us to work on our relationship, he says he does not want divorce. I did find some emails he wrote to her stating " he'd be happy when the divorce goes through....) I feel my husband loves me, but he reaches out to this other girl and tells her what she wants to hear, so he can get what he wants.
This past mother day, my husabdn told me we would go out to dinner with our children. He later cancells the night before. When I check his voicemail at work i find out he is suppossed to to go to dinner with the other girl's parents on mother's day.
On mother's day, I go to her house to speak to her paren'ts and catch my husband. When I spoke with her parents, i found out my husband has been telling them he is divorced. I was so hurt that day. when my husband got out of the car seeing me talikg to her parents, he stands next to her across from me, glaring at me. that evening I went and moved all of my things out of our house for good. I have not heard from him since Sunday. That is such a hurtful feeling, becuase we used to be such good friends. Best friends actually. I don't know how our marriage has gotten to this.
1) why does my husband continue to say he loves me, but stood by her that day?
2) I don't want a divorce, but it seems like I have no other choice, my husband won't get the divorce.
3) I truly hurt for our children. I don't allow him to get them because he is ireesponsible with them. he takes them around her for one.
4) I know that Satan is using him to the fullest, what are your suggestions.
please lift me up in prayer.
