1. If you are a MARRIED WOMAN and you have read this book.... what did you think about it? Has the message changed your attitude? If so, how?

2. If you are a MARRIED MAN and your ~wife~ has read this book .... what changes have you noticed since she's read it?

3. If you are a MARRIED WOMAN have not read this book .... tell me why not. Does the title turn you off? Does the author (Dr. Laura) turn you off?

4. If you are a MARRIED MAN and your ~wife~ has not read this book .... do you wish she would? Why or why not?

Pep <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Pepperband:


3. If you are a MARRIED WOMAN have not read this book .... tell me why not. Does the title turn you off? Does the author (Dr. Laura) turn you off?

I have not read the book, but I have thought about getting. The reason that I have not is because I am currently reading the 'DaVinci Code' and I can't put it down. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I actually find the title very interesting and that is one of the reason why I thought about getting it.

Dr. Laura does turn me off sometimes. I listen to her radion show and sometimes I get the feeling that she seems annoyed by her callers. These are people looking for help and she should treat them a bit more respectfully, otherwise she may have missed her calling.

Just my 2 cents!

Kati

Originally posted by Kati:
The reason that I have not is because I am currently reading the 'DaVinci Code' and I can't put it down. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

LOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I actually bought the D'Code at Costco the same time I bought Dr. Laura's book .... and I read hers first because I knew I could finish her's quickly... Haven't started the other book yet.

Thanks for responding.

Pep <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

<small>[ May 13, 2004, 10:23 AM: Message edited by: Pepperband ]</small>

3. If you are a MARRIED WOMAN have not read this book .... tell me why not. Does the title turn you off? Does the author (Dr. Laura) turn you off?


Sometimes I think Dr. Laura is a bit of a hypocrite, so I suppose she turns me off. I have heard it was worth reading, that she made some good points. So maybe I'll pick it up.

What is your review?

Originally posted by betrayed by 2:

What is your review?

Thanks for responding.

I'm holding off with my opinion for awhile.

Pep

First, Pep, I have read many of your posts and really like your direct style of writing.

Second, I do not think I have ever posted to you, before, but your 'tag' line prompted me to do so......so what does "I am working on my revirgination..." mean? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Originally posted by George Bailey:
so what does "I am working on my revirgination..." mean?

The term comes from another book ... a series of humor books .... written by Jill Conner Browne.

The first of the series is "The Sweet Potato Queens Book Of Love"... but she doesn't discuss "revirgination" until the 3rd book in the series( I think it's the 3rd one...)

But TSPQBOL should be read first... until then, revirgination won't make sense ... if it ever does! LOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Anywayyyyyy... HER books are funny ... and instruct a gal on how to live large like a southern belle ... irreverent, fun, sassy tips on how to re-invent one's self... Hillarious pee-in-your-pants books.

Pep <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

<small>[ May 13, 2004, 10:49 AM: Message edited by: Pepperband ]</small>

3. If you are a MARRIED WOMAN have not read this book .... tell me why not. Does the title turn you off? Does the author (Dr. Laura) turn you off?


I have been married (widowed) and looking forward to the day that I will be married again.

Hope that can qualify me to answer. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I am holding off until the second book in the series is introduced...

"Proper Care and Nurturing of Wives". <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

committed

I have read it...

I like dr. laura..

part entertainment...partly I like that she has her opinions and sticks to them...no matter what...

don't always agree...

but if you listen long enough she rarely surprises you....

I thought the book was OK....
felt that it did oversimplify men and their desires and needs....I like men...I like the many different sides to them.....

found some of the stories of the men...completely humiliated and beaten down by their spouse...sad..very sad in fact...

some stories were very hard to read...and i hope that anyone who would treat their spouse with such disdain would look at the chaos and pain they are responsible for....

the whole time I read it I kept asking my husband if I treated him badly or if he thought I was naggy...

he responded each time appropriately...

"no dear you're perfect"... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />
so I'd pat him on the head and say..

good boy..good boy.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I think the book does have value...
I think people really do get caught in a trap that it is OK to dump on your spouse ...your spouse should be the last person you use to dump on...

I still love dr.phil's challenge to spouses...(not to mix dr.s...)

"Are you a soft place for your spouse to fall?...

I definitely would recommend the book...
ark

As a male, I find the title alone to be rather condescending. I would like to think that the title is in jest and that the content is actually quite beneficial to a marriage.

Men are not plants or animals that depend on proper care and nuturing for their marital survival. I think that is a very poor parallel. The title suggests that it is the H that is broken and needs to be fixed....not the relationship. The proper care and feeding of a marital relationship for instance....it takes two to tango.

I cannot comment on the book in general however, as I have not read it. I will not judge the book by it's cover.

"The title suggests that it is the H that is broken and needs to be fixed....not the relationship. The proper care and feeding of a marital relationship for instance....it takes two to tango. "

Thanks for responding Ba...You may be surprised by the content.

Ark^^.... Thanks for responding.

Pep <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Pep, I'm no Southern Belle but I LOVE the Sweet Potato Queens! The books are such a crack up, a guaranteed pick-me-up on a down day.

I haven't read Dr. Laura's but will pick it up this week. I'm surprized no one has weighed in yet with an opinion on the book itself. Come on, guys!

Pep-

I have read this book and, while I am usually turned off by Dr. Laura and her abrasive style (I don't listen to her or watch her), I think the book had some very good points to it.

It has been a while since I read it but when I think about what overall message I walked away with the main points seem to be to RESPECT our H's and treat them well and to stop the game-playing and controlling (I was guilty of some of the issues she called women on here)

Sometimes the book seemed overly simplistic (and she repeatedly refers to men as being very simple in their needs) but maybe she's on to something!?!

When I read a book I will underline anything that is important or of interest to me or noteworthy and this was a book that I had underlined a LOT in...I still go back and skim through it once in a while when I need to be reminded that my H isn't really my enemy and I need to stop treating him like one.

I'm interested to hear your opinion on it!

Originally posted by knewbetter:
Pep, I'm no Southern Belle but I LOVE the Sweet Potato Queens! The books are such a crack up, a guaranteed pick-me-up on a down day.

Not to mention "revirgination"! LOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I haven't read Dr. Laura's but will pick it up this week. I'm surprized no one has weighed in yet with an opinion on the book itself. Come on, guys!

Thank you for responding.

Pep <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Originally posted by Jill Mack:


I have read this book and, while I am usually turned off by Dr. Laura and her abrasive style (I don't listen to her or watch her), I think the book had some very good points to it.

Thank you for responding. How did you come to read her book if you don't watch or listen to her?

Pep <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

<small>[ May 13, 2004, 01:34 PM: Message edited by: Pepperband ]</small>

3. If you are a MARRIED WOMAN have not read this book .... tell me why not. Does the title turn you off? Does the author (Dr. Laura) turn you off?

I haven't read it yet. I used to listen to Dr. Laura several years ago but her abrasiveness got on my nerves. Granted there are times pple need a 2X4...but sometimes there is more to it and how can you tell in a 30 second phone call? I understand the entertainment aspect of her show, and pple shouldnt call her hoping for a 30 second solution. The entertainment for me waned so I stopped listening.

BUT I would like to read it. I do agree on some of her points. Plus I need just a few more books to finish filling the floor-to-ceiling bookcase that houses my relationship help/infidelity/how to make your sex life better library that I have amassed since Dday!! LOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Originally posted by Fraggles:
I need just a few more books to finish filling the floor-to-ceiling bookcase that houses my relationship help/infidelity/how to make your sex life better library that I have amassed since Dday!!

I hear ya!

Thanks for responding.

Pep <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Dear Pep,

I was definitely turned off by the title, but I hadn't ruled out checking the book out (probably at Costco as well...I love that place!)

Now...here's the funny part! My daughter got that book from her MIL for her birthday!!! I thought that was quite a dig if you know what I mean!! However, my daughter is a good sport so she said she'll check it out! The MIL is an Enneagram type Eight so she's not afraid to speak her mind...obviously!

My daughter LOVED the Davinci Code that we bought her at Costco for Christmas <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> !

Stillwed

Originally posted by stillwed:

I was definitely turned off by the title

I suspect this is also true for many others as well.

Driving to work today I was listening to "Focus On The Family" Christian radio program... this month they are discussing marriage in depth. AND...

This morning...

Their guest was Dr. Laura. I have already read her book, but was interested in hearing her explaination as to why she wrote it... but it was never mentioned as to how she chose the title... However, I did not finish the broadcast, so perhaps it was discussed at the end.

She was far more eloquent and much softer in her interview than she has EVER been on her own show.

And I was wondering... if people have gotten turned off by her and they avoid anything with her name on it... or if the title gives the wrong impression...

Thanks for responding.

Pep <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Pepperband:
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2. If you are a MARRIED MAN and your ~wife~ has read this book .... what changes have you noticed since she's read it?
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hi Pep:

I have read the book and my wife is reading the book and has almost finished. I gave it to her because once I started reading it I could have given Dr. Laura the matierial for the book. I felt it was right on at least for me.

I have been down because I have tried for years to make my wife happy in the hopes that she would at least try to make me happy. Whenever I would go to her to try to tell her what I needed she did not want to here it. I was getting to the point of thinking of walking out the door.

I loved the book because I kept thinking to myself why won't she try to make me happy? It would take so little. All I wanted from my W is to be admired and respected and I also want SF 2-3 times a week. I would be a happy and content man. My W believes these are stupid needs (her words) and since she cooks for our family that proves she loves me. She does not see the need to meet any of those needs I feel are important.

Now are all men simple probably not. I don't care if people are offended by the book it is the most acurate book I have ever read in regards to how I feel. If my W wanted me to read a book I would and I have read several that she has given me to try and improve things. In my mind if I can point out to her a book that gives her the roadmap to being a better and more supportive Wife that is what I should do.

I have noticed an improvement in her since she started reading the book. These are changes that she has refused to make for a year. She asked me if men are really that simple and I have told her yes. She has tried to meet my SF needs and she has been a much better wife lately.

I know this is due to the book. I don't know if the changes will last or not. I believe that if a W is struggling read the book. I feel it is very accuate and if followed will make most men very happy.

It is a book on how to make men happy and in turn your man will make their wife happy. That is not at all different from the love bank concept.