I work from home and have been watching Dr. Phil help a couple through their troubles (the biggest one being the H's multiple A's).

So I saw the topic of today's show and thought I'd mention it here.

I'm watching now and it's our stories televised.

well, I was just reading a post by new outlook on tinman's thread and she mentioned the oprah show and what it was about etc, how the H couldn't see how he was hurting his sons. once again i find it difficult to see how my situation will turn out because of the no kids situation, the OW is single, and IL's and OW's parents aren't doing anything to break up the A.

but anyway, i'm trying to channel my stubborness and use it to enable to stay in this race for the long haul and outlast the OW. i don't think she can last as long as i can. time will tell and i say that today for who knows where i'll be tomorrow and it's definitely going to be a looooong haul and rough road.

hope you have a good weekend and we plan to be all updated next week on the husband homecoming <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> you must just be beside yourself w/delight that he will be home tomorrow! take care and continued prayers to you.

Well - I was on the phone with tech support throughout the entire Oprah show. Serves me right for obsessing I guess!

I didn't see much of it. I did see the part about the man not really knowing he was hurting his sons. That blew my mind.

I saw the first part of the first couple and it sounded like Believer to me.

I hope others who watched the show will see this thread and tell us what we missed.

Yes, my H is leaving Korea now. He just called to say he was leaving his hotel and we will see him tomorrow afternoon. He will fly into Atlanta where he's new truck is waiting on him. He'll drive that home. He's pretty excited to come home. I'm going for complete over stimulation here.

He'll have the new truck, tickets to see his favorite comedian, 2 beautiful children, huge homecooked meal and a stunning wife waiting with open arms. OK...I don't plan on waiting for him to get in the house....I will attack him in the driveway like I used to when he came home from a training mission or the war.

I miss him so much.

Wishing you a good weekend as well.

Hi all,
I taped the show today and just watched it. I think I got more help from this site than the show, not that the show wasn't any good, it was. It was probably less helpful to me the BS (Husband) as the show was portrayed to show the BS as the wife. Suzy Farbman, wrote a book and that was basically what the focus was on.

As the BS, take care of yourself, look back to what you fell in love with and decide if you can have that again (if the WH wants that). I think there wasn't enough time for Oprah to get into everything and to me it showed. (But that's just me, Ali88 was great, but I wasn't which one of the three video diary women she was, but you could see the pain in all of them.)

No chance for fog now, is there hw!
You truly are an amazing woman.
Dont forget to update us!
Thinking about you today, and pleased you will have H back. xxx <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I have always liked Oprah. However, when I watched her show months ago about the 9/11 firefighters leaving their families for the widows of 9/11 I got totally turned off. One woman's H, who wasn't one of the firefighters, left her and 4 kids for a neighbor and friend. Oprah was talking to the woman in a way that just felt like she was blaming her for not seeing the signs of the detiorating M. It was such an oversimplification and I felt so bad for this woman. I felt like Oprah just didn't get it.

The other thing is I get so tired of O having anti-A shows and then having celebs on like Julia Roberts and Sting who have had As, and they are glorified. Of course Julia had nothing to do with the break-up of current H's M. No, they just got "M"ed about 6 months after D. At least Sting admits he and W were having an A. Don't get me started! I've barely been able to watch O these days. I watched these shows when H's A was unraveling so they really hit me. CV

I agree CV...I only watche a few minutes of the show yesteday and got turned off. I love Oprah, but if you are going to have a show like that, then educate yourself. the first guest was TRYING to explain that is was like an ADDICTION and he couldn't realled explain it. Oprah just sat there and said "I've got time"... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> I know someone from THIS board was on the show yesterday...but I didnt' stick around to see who it was. Sorry, I just ahve a hard time watching this stuff anymore! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

KS -

I thank you for your kind words. I'll start a new thread to discuss his homecoming. I think others might be interested in hearing the latest events. I'll post the name of that thread here when I have time.

Others -

I didn't get to watch the entire Oprah show either. I was on the phone with Tech Support trying to get my new hardward hooked up.

I have never really been a huge fan of Oprah. I do like that she gives so much back to needy people and I liked her whole "Pay it Forward" campaign. I did notice that she was harsh on the WS in the first couple's story. She seemed to be disgusted by his actions and wouldn't allow him to use any excuses.

My shock came from the women in the audience. When Oprah talked about the WSs and what they had done to the BSs...the entire audience went nuts. They zoomed in on the faces of some women that were saying "Oh NOOOOOOOO, I'd never take that man back." They were pretty much laughing at the BS for taking back the man that cheated on her with the lady in the house behind them. It was just sad. You don't know what you would do in a situation like this. Recovery is possible. While popular culture teaches people it's OK to cheat and everyone does it...it's cool on TV. (See some of John_G's posts on this topic....it's textbook. The guy watches Sex in the City and think that's how life should be. This guy is really confused and needs our help so if you see his posts drop in on him for some encouragement.) Where was I going with that? Oh, yeah popular culture also tells the BS that "you don't have to take that...drop the zero and find a hero." (pun intended)

But that's the thing....A's happen to HEROS and ZEROS. I've seen posts here from preachers wives who's Hs have fell for younger women in the church. This doesn't just happen to families that have no morals. It can happen to everyone.

It's a shame but it's the truth.

Mom - I'm with you on not being able to watch things like this show on Oprah. I force myself to open my mind and hear what others have to say. That often times means pain for me.


I wish you all a good Monday.

I will not be watching Oprah today...my H is finally home and will be taking the afternoon off. I think I'll spend some time with him!

Prayers to you all.

Posted Hero's Homecoming...to give details on his homecoming.

I think it was ForeverHers that hit on this in a post over on JFO...

Oprah (and Dr. Phil for that matter) ain't about helping people.

That show is about ratings and sponsors. Infidelity is interesting in the same way train wrecks are...morbid interest of the onlookers. Oooh look...is that the guy's brain over there? No, it's just a woman's heart.

Like CV mentioned, they seem to miss the real people in these shows...taunting the WS because it plays on the audiences sense of righteous indignation. Humiliating the BS for trying to recover. Outrageous! I know this one well...we lost several friends because they thought my wife was crazy for taking me back. I don't miss'em.

Not only NOT helpful, but downright tawdry and disgusting. Oprah is profiting from the misery of infidelity.

What I don't get is the people on these shows. Oprah might be rich, but she doesn't have enough money to pay me to humiliate myself in front the entire country like that.

Gimme Andy Griffith reruns any day...

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I hear ya! I'm all about my Andy reruns. As a child I used to fake sick to stay home when they had Andy Marathons! I love it!