Dear WH,
When we first met, I saw a young man with confidence and poise. When you entered a room, it was like you brightened the whole place. I enjoyed being in the glow, you made me feel so truly loved. In the beginning of our relationship I tried your patience, I tested you constantly, but you stood by till I finally realized you thought I was worth it. It is with true regret that we find ourselves in this situation.
I would like to acknowledge and apologize for my part in the demise of our marriage. I did not see that you were unhappy in our marriage. I know I may have listened to you, but I truly did not hear you. I believe that if we had both worked on keeping the relationship alive and fresh, we might not be here. I know if I had, there would have not been a void in our marriage prompting you to have an affair.
I have had many months to analyze what I should have done differently. I do not want a divorce. I want a chance to do whatever I can to put our marriage back together in a mutually satisfying way. I believe that I have been learning ways to be the type of woman that I hope you would be proud to call your wife, as I have always been proud to call you my husband. I truly want to learn from this experience, be able to forgive each other for all the pain we have inflicted on each other, and move forward. I truly believe that we can rebuild our marriage, that it can be better and stronger. It can be a marriage that we both feel loved, safe, cherished and honored.
At this time, I need to separate from you to heal and protect myself. I ask that you respect my decision not to speak with you. This separation is a necessity to preserve my love for you and to avoid losing anymore of the things we have shared together. This period is for us both to heal and hopefully find our way back to each other. If in the future, you have a change of heart and decide that you want to give our marriage a chance, I am open to discussing it with you and working on a plan to restore our marriage. But, I will need to know that you are committed to our marriage and will need assurances that OW is no longer part of your life.
I truly love you and I truly believe in you. As I have told you so many times, you are the one of the best men I have ever been privileged to know. I know you are hurting deeply, I know you believe you betrayed your principles and integrity, but we are human and we all fall from time to time. Together we can repair the damage, or so I hope. I believe in us, I believe in our marriage.
You have tested me at this time as I did you in the beginning of our relationship, I hope you finally see that you are worth it!
Love forever and always,
BB2
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