H doesn't know yet what "happened" to the suit.
atrueheart
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Just take it and throw it out on the front yard then turn on the sprinklers??.. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I live in an appartment building, no front yard here
javaSansCountour
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> If you itemize your taxes, take it down to the Salvation Army or someplace that resells clothes, get a receipt, and then let him know where it is so he can buy it back, LOL </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I live in south america, no Salvation Army here, I should have thought on church thou...
Also is not like its his favorite, it was his only suit. When he told me he bought it and that if I recognized the brand he did it in a despised way to me, like poor me that I didn't knew. Well of course I knew, but I didn't understood when he became so shallow and bitter towards me.
KiwiJ
Thank you, I don't really know if it's too late for me.
Shul
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I know exactly how you feel, but throwing eggs at the bathtub is a safer way to vent some of your anger.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I had to clean that after and it would made me more angy heheheh I'm lazy on home!
hopesalive
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Hon dont burn the suit. This comes from the one who set fire to all sorts of stuff and cut up the paintings. Dont do it, you wont feel any better.
I suggest that you do something else to vent your anger. Try tossing a baseball or writing a mean note and ripping it up. Dont burn the suit, it really wont make you feel any better in the long run.
Mattie I will hang on the ladies board if you want to come over there. I am so sorry your having such a hard time but really burning his stuff wont solve it. Trust me I know.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Thank you for your words, they have "worked", I didn't burn the suit ok? It's just not available anymore, and I do like the church idea.
Silverthorn
I'm happy my advice worked for you, and I'm happy you are listening maybe your M will be better or take a better path than mine. I have been told at my meetings, that one has to be obedient with others advice regarding recovery, it seems you are and my H's is not there's the difference.
As for update
I was here, talking with SIL and H arrived. Around 8:30 pm.
He has told me he was at the office, well he was not there been there myself. Then he told me he was at his boss working with him that he has to go on a trip. More lies, he could have called. And nothing I could confirm.
He asked until thursday to do some other things, that he was not happy. He has not met any of my needs and he is not being obedient. That tells me he is still into the A. I asked he quit his job on monday and cut all contact with OW, he asked until thursday to go with the counselor and to see what she has to say. Told him the counselor is not the answer. He also said, that he doesn't feel at home, that he doesn't want to come home, feels like a jail to him. He also told me, it was not me, that he knew I was doing all to make it good, and that he could not blame me as before, since to all I said ok, that it was him. I told him to pack his things, and come home when he feels he is doing the right thing. He talked me out of it, that I please give him until thursday.
He spent the night here. And I think is not use, I do not feel any better. This is hopeless already. I don't want to wait until thursday. I can't wait for him to keep destrying me. He tells me that all he knows, is that he doesn't want to cause me any more pain, but still he is doing it, and what is worse, I'm allowing him.
Not ANY of my needs are being met, and I just feel hollow, empty and hurt. All I know, is that I can't keep at this. For as much as I love him, or care for him, this is not healthy for me so I don't have a clue why I keep at this. He got his chance, and he knows he messed it up.
I know what I got, a H who has not ended the A, and who doesn't want to end it. Last night, I said I was going to give him until thursday. Now It doesn't feel right, he has to reach his bottom and who knows what is that, to work on this. Or maybe he lost the love for me and doesn't want to say so?
I'm thinking on ways to work for me, and drawing blanks, and maybe waiting until thursday will just only prolong the agony. I already know it will take no difference, cause I'm not going to put ANY effort until then. He told me it's his time to play, but I do not want to keep playing.
