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Giver's Snap
#1137317 05/16/04 04:49 PM
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I've seen a couple mentions about something called Giver's Snap. I think I might have it. I have some questions.....

What exactly is it?

How do you avoid getting it?

What are the things you're supposed to do if you already have it?

Is it possible to un-snap? How long does that take?

Thanks to anyone who can answer.

Edited for one more question: Is this something I should schedule an appt with Steve Harley for?

<small>[ May 16, 2004, 04:53 PM: Message edited by: LovingBoundaries ]</small>
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Never heard of it. Neither has google. Hmmmm.

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#1137319 05/16/04 07:58 PM
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For me, it was after being in Plan A for 5 months, being a Class A Giver, then finding out my WW was still in phone contact with OM. That was it!

I had an emotional volcano, and broke every MB rule in the book. I hurled LB's, AO's and DJ's with the fury of a Class 5 hurricane.

Does that qualify as Giver's Snap?

Of course I later apologized and returned to a now blemished Plan A, and we're now in recovery, but that's a different story....

Does that qualify as Giver's Snap?

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#1137320 05/16/04 08:11 PM
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Loving, you have me curious what "Giver's snap" means!

Dewt, I couldn't find it through the Internet search either.

Shattered, maybe that is what it means in your case. Whew! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> (Glad you are back to no LB's!)

I typed it in the MB search and there were six.
This one describes it pretty well:

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posted March 02, 1999 02:24 PM
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"Your boyfriend appears to be having "giver's snap": he's been focusing too hard on meeting your needs and not worrying about his own."

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<small>[ May 16, 2004, 08:12 PM: Message edited by: Blessed TIME ]</small>
Re: Giver's Snap
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Here is the address to click on with the six messages with giver's snap in them.

One message was to WAT in 2001!

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi...d=results&record=2453142-195646-B5CY
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Thanks for the link. It doesn't work but you gave me the idea to search the archives <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I knew I had seen it mentioned but I didn't think it was that long ago! My how the years add up.

Will go on a search expedition now.

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