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Should I contact OW
#1137340 05/16/04 08:24 PM
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My husband has told that he last talked to OW last monday and has not spoken to her since because they both agreed that it was too hard to talk to each other knowing that he is still married. However... I've looked at his cell phone and saw where she has contacted him at least three times this week. I'm not telling him that I know about his lies. I'm waiting for the phone bill that I should be receiving this week to really see how much he has spoken to her. I'm very tempted to contact her and ask her what her intentions are with my husband. My ML says that I shouldn't because that would only make my H more upset and angry. I know that it would however... maybe if I spoke to her she may realize what kind of mess she has gotten herself into. Any advice?
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Generally it's a waste of time. On the other hand I'm sure you could find some who've talked to OW and it's worked.

Not knowing her, you or your H, it's a tough one to give advice on.

I talked to the OP in my case and got fog talk back. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> A real backstabber that one.

Anyway, whatever you decide, good luck.

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#1137342 05/16/04 08:55 PM
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I agree with Dewt - don't contact the OP - she obviously still is interested in your H and I don't think anything you say is really going to discourage her. She may say things to hurt you even more.

Did you ask you H to write a NC letter?- that is the best - show him MB website, what the letter should say - and ask him to write it and he needs to confirm NC with her if he wants the M to work with You.

can you change the cell # so she cannot contact him? Try and put up all the blocks where you can to keep them apart- good luck
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I would talk to him now and tell him to send her a NC letter so she will stop contacting him. If he is serious about ending the affair, that is the LEAST he can do.

I don't see any point in contacting the OW. She doesn't care about you and will just rub the affair in your nose.
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#1137344 05/17/04 07:03 AM
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H has already broke it off with over the phone but she contacted him two days later and he told her that he didn't want to end his contact with her.That was two weeks ago. I'm in the process of pa. not sure how long I will be able to last.

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