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<small>[ November 07, 2004, 11:25 AM: Message edited by: cipher ]</small>
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The Plan B letter should help prevent that from happening. It is a love letter that gives them a path back. It states your willingness to take them back under certain conditions, thusly avoiding a loss of face when they want to come back.
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<small>[ November 07, 2004, 11:37 AM: Message edited by: cipher ]</small>
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cellophane, it sounds like your PBL is working if she is still trying to contact you. When she contacts you, tell her to please refer to your letter and end the discussion. Hang up the phone or close the door. She will catch on. No need to send another one, you are in charge of who you will or won't contact, NOT HER. She doesn't set your agenda for you. You set the agenda, ok?
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<small>[ November 07, 2004, 11:44 AM: Message edited by: cipher ]</small>
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<small>[ November 07, 2004, 11:44 AM: Message edited by: cipher ]</small>
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Cellophane....get thee to a lawyer. Kids need the stability they have if the rest of their world is being whisked away. Put them first and inquire if WW can make that decision without your approval, I doubt she can.
She does not call all the shots. Plan A does not mean anything goes for her. Place some boundaries on her actions, apply them gently but firmly. No LB's.
Kids first.
Kids last.
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<small>[ November 07, 2004, 11:46 AM: Message edited by: cipher ]</small>
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50/50 custody gives you a lot of say in the parenting decisions of the children. Where I'm at, I will have that arrangement as well and WW cannot make that decision without my approval. Double/triple check.
The courts look at what's in the intrest of the children.....or at least they're supposed to. They are loathe to allow comprehensive changes to the children's routine.
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