Is it possible to do Plan A living apart - I will be leaving the house because I've been doing plan A living with him and it has produced no change in pursuing this affair with OW.
He says that if I go to Plan B and there is no communication between us - he feels that there will be no hope for us; divorce is imminent.
In a nutshell, he wants to date me and OW; he informed me that his dating cycle was cutoff when we got married and if he's honest with himself, he wouldn't have married me if it wasn't for the pressure of our church, who was encouraging marriage.
Let me lay more foundation - WS knew OW when they were 10 yrs old (that was the last time they saw each other up until 6 yrs ago). When he ran into OW she was married and WS was dating me. He told me recently that if OW wasn't married at that time, he would have wanted to marry her, but since she was married and I was a good person whom he was attracted to (yet incompatible)he decided to give marriage with me a try.
Here we are 6 yrs later and 2 children (1 & 3), WS finds OW, who is now on her 2nd divorce. He shares with her how he has been living a lie with me and have been wanting to be with her for the last 6 yrs. OW is receptive & WS feels like he would rather lose his life than end this (no contact)-this is his soulmate.
Why not just divorce me I ask? WS says I feel it's best for the children to be with both parents and he feel that God brought us together for a reason as well him and OW. WS's solution - if OW agrees to it maybe we could all be friends.
He says in order to start working on our marriage following MB principles to "fall in love", he has to resolve this other situation first - I'm not sure what resolve means here, something to do with finding if they had a special connection even while they've been apart - because he'had dreams about him being her protector.
Telling this makes me feel like I should run as fast as I can away from him and not give anymore effort - because it's futile.
Any advice ...
