</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> this is the one place we can tell our heart's secrets!
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">i could not disagree with that stmt more. This is a great place to build a strong marriage!!! that is my only purpose for being here.

personally i think the way you focus on your "heart's secrets" is your biggest problem!!!

Hi Gregg.
I don't know your story or why you say I remind you of your wife.

When it comes to my conscious and having an affair, the first kiss and I felt really really guilty...Washed my mouth with mouth wash and got under the covers when I returned home and shivered with guilt.

The second kiss was different and so the story goes! My conscious on other things in life is where it should be but my conscious concerning OM is almost nil.

And then one week becomes one month, then several months then before you know it, years have went by.

When I say 11 years, it sounds unbelievable to me to yet it often seems like just last week that I was caring for him in a nursing home and our frienship was beginning.

Finally Learning, I guess you are right that the purpose of this MB is NOT sharing our 'secret' thoughts and feelings but that is what we do here. In hopes of getting advice that will improve our marriages and sometimes just getting burdens off our mind; when we need help!

Many people often do not want their spouses to read what what they write (some care and some don't care) but it is a place where we can safely share what we are feeling.

And if we are 2X4rd, that is okay also.
Often necessary.
Love, Sarah

<small>[ May 24, 2004, 03:26 PM: Message edited by: Sarie ]</small>

I guess one of my GREATEST FEARS after reading Sarah's story is that my H might still be longing for his OW. She left him for another man that she could call her own; a man she could have for keeps that wasn't married!

I wonder if H is play acting, like Sarah, that everything is ok, when inside he is still missing her!

I guess I cannot really know. I can just go along and hope that in time, I will not have to worry or wonder but will just feel SURE that it is over in his heart as well has his actions!

Sarah, I hope you make the right choice NOW in doing the right thing.
And YOU know what that right thing is!
It is NEVER too late to do what is right!
Sincerely and with caring, Julie <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

This whole thing makes me sick. If he is your "true love" - leave your husband and go be w/ him or are to too much of a coward.

I read your posts months ago & was disgusted then as I am now. People here are trying to build a better marriage, get over their pain & what are you doing?

Ark said it best - Blah, blah, blah.

Grow up & be a real woman - tell your husband & see if he is really so "happy" w/you.

A few pages back, Sarie requested a lock.

I believe that's a good idea.