If you're asking yourself is it worth it I hope you'll take some inspiration from this. I took wife out for her birthday along with 3 other couples over the weekend. I surprised her as well as the other couples by renting a limo and going out on the town. After dinner and a good bit of alcohol we ended up at a piano bar. Normally wife isn't too keen on dancing with me as I'm not a very good dancer and she'd normally just dance with the girls. But we slow danced and fast danced for song after song. When one of my favorite show songs came on she asked if I wanted to dance again. During each slow dance I held her so tight and felt so in love and felt it returned. I felt somewhat embarrassed in front of the other couples who continued to sit on their stools and watch us.

The point of this is that all of the other couples know W and I are having problems. They even have a good idea of why. So I suppose to them it may have looked a bit phony that we can still have such a good time together. Most of them even feel sorry for me for both what I am going through and what they perceive that I put up with. But you know what, I look at them sitting there with their spouses and not having fun. While W and I are going through the most difficult time of our M we are still going through it together and as best friends. In contrast to the other couples I feel very, very connected to W.

I felt somewhat embarrassed in front of the other couples who continued to sit on their stools and watch us.
Aww, piss on 'em if they can't take it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
Sounds like you're doing okay though. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

WOE,

Lovely post.

You reminded me of a couple of things. One was that one of my most passionate kisses with my H was right when we weren't sure if we were going to make it through "all this" but we were in there duking it out together. The kiss, to a casual observer, was not at ALL representative of all the undercurrents. I suspect if anyone had known our situation and seen that kiss, they'd have considered it phony.

I enjoyed it immensely. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

That's a very cool story.

I recommend ditching these "friends" if they can't hope in what you hope for and love what you love.

Best wishes,

Jg

Chris, Turtlehead and John-g, thanks for the kind words and well wishes. Times like these make it all worthwhile.

WOE

...to them it may have looked a bit phony that we can still have such a good time together. Most of them even feel sorry for me for both what I am going through and what they perceive that I put up with. But you know what, I look at them sitting there with their spouses and not having fun. While W and I are going through the most difficult time of our M we are still going through it together and as best friends. In contrast to the other couples I feel very, very connected to W.
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Isn't it better to be proactive in your marriage and make it the very best even in the midst of problems being overcome? Getting sympathy IMO only allows us to continue on the same ugly path.

I prefer, like you and your W, to dance with my H! Sounds like a good datenight plan to me!!!!

Thanks for sharing this.

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At the risk of being boorish I thought I bump this.

Do what you have to do. H and I went dancing couple of times, but most memorable was when everyone left the dancefloor to us... and just watch <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> :THIS IS HOW WE DO!!>>THIS HOW WE DO IT" harudah break dances*

Don't mind me.. I'm just a little crazy tonight.. but good for you bro.. keep up the good work.. to hell with all the talks, at end you know what? If you get a divorce, you're going to be the only one in the mess not your friends. That is why I am not listening to any of them....from the states, they are driving me nuts..