Long story, I'll try to be brief. Been married 5 1/2 years and we have 3 small children. My H had an A at the beginning of the year, it lasted roughly 8 weeks and ended. I found out early in Apr, after it was over. There were a lot of marital issues that we both did wrong and we are now trying to correct them.

Last week I found several e-mails from OW that were prompted by 1 from my H saying he was thinking of her. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> She in turn sent 4-5, none of which he had read when I discovered them. I threw a fit and told him if he didn't sever all contact then the kids and I were leaving. He sent her a good-bye e-mail which he also sent to me so I knew he had done it.

I had been doing fairly well until I saw this new batch of letters. Now everything seems topsy-turvy again and I'm wondering if I can actually do the recovery. He is willing to do whatever it takes to help me. I've debated kicking him out but know in my heart that's not what I want. He is very remorseful and knows what he did was wrong. He feels guilty about staying with me because he feels dirty, tainted, and unworthy of my love.

I just need some advice on how to go about recovery and eventually forgiveness.

Go to recovery forum...i think you will get more support from there. Most of the folks here are still struggling trying to drag back our WS from foggyland. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />