(very long post)
Last Tuesday I gave birth (by c-section) to my third child. She is very healthy and a very good baby.
Some of you have read my posts in the past couple of weeks. H admitted to me in my 36 week of pregnancy that he was having an ea. It broke my heart and I have been having a very difficult time with depression. H did not stop contact with ow right away... but he didn't leave me either.
We have been going to counseling and it has worked wonders for both of us... I have also implemented PA. Monday when I called my h and told him the dr decided to move up my c-section to the next day he was very excited and relieved. We went to our counselor and met separatly with him. I went first. Afterwards my h called me and was suddenly my h again. I couldn't believe my ears. He told me that he loved me very much and he knew that he didn't tell me enough. He proceeded to make plans for me and the kids while I was in the hospital. We have moved in with my in-laws.

He is home every night and spends quality time with me and the kids. Something he hasn't done in 3 weeks. I am being cautious of his actions right now. I'm not very trusting. One thing that I have not done is played detective or ask a million questions about ow. Of course my hormones are way out of check right now and I just couldn't stand it anymore. He has not offered anything to me on his complete change of attitude... is he still seeing her etc. I decided to snoop.

I noticed on his cell phone that he has missed several calls from her in the past week. But most important... no receieved (he didn't pick up) and no dialed calls to her. (a very good thing... at least he's not calling her) Then I looked in his wallet... dumb thing on my part... he has a picture of her. That hurt. Now I have a face... and she's not beautiful but certianly not ugly either. I confronted him and asked him about the picture. He told me that she gave that to him some time ago and he was not seeing or talking to her. He called her last Monday and told her that he could not do this anymore and contact had to stop. He said that she has continued to try and contact him regardless of his request and he has not returned or answered any calls.

The next morning I noticed his phone had a new message. Nosey me listened to it... it was her. A very aggervated woman. Her message was... "It's me. I need to talk to you about a few things. If you can find time in your BUSY schedule call me." I don't know if he did. He spent the entire day with me and I monitored that cell phone pretty closely. I deleted the message so he didn't hear it but I did tell him about it. I told him she was crazy if he told her it was over and she was still attempting contact with him. I told him that I was afraid that the first arguement that we were in he might be tempted to pick up the phone when she calls. I will not be able to completely trust him until I know she has stopped.

So far he seems to be totally committed to me and our children. I decided not to ask him about her anymore... for the time being. I'm going to keep doing pa and focus on our relationship. Especially since he is returning all of the affection that I'm giving him. Maybe that will be enough. My h is the type the more you ask and the more you pressure him the more put off he will be. That was the advice of my counselor. Don't ask... very hard to do and of course I have slipped. It wasn't bad though. I was very calm and was not disrepectful to him. The picture is still in his wallet unless he took it out. I decided that he had to be the one to get rid of it. Even though it's killing me. I want to burn it!

I'm doing much better. One day at a time. It seems that he is coming out of the fog. I just hope that he doesn't slip back into it.

Congradulation! for the baby and your H.

ditto, CONGRATULATIONS!!!

Thank you for taking some time out of what I *know* is a sleepless, stress-filled schedule to share this happy news. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />