I'm trying to stay positive. My h seems to have come out of the fog and is committed to me and our three children. He tells me that he has had nc with ow since last week when he ended it with her right before the birth of our daughter.

Nothing has changed so far. He is loving, supportive... my h again. The man I married seven years ago.

Now I'm having problems with trust. (to be expected) I want to play detective so bad and check up on him. I'm scared that we are in a false recovery. How can I ever start to believe what he tells me. He seems to be geniune... but is he? I'm trying to stay busy... trying not to think about all that has happended in the last three weeks. How long does this take?

I'm so glad to see you again. How did the birth go? I was kinda worried about you.

Stick with us and we will help you through this. Of course you will not trust him at first. Only time will tell.

He should send NC letter. Will he do that? In the meantime, try to relax, and enjoy. We will support you here. If you want to LB, come here.

BW, he needs to earn his trust by his action. We will be here to support you.

Believer, are you in your vacation now? Hope you have a good time and lots of fun.

Wow. So much going on in your life. New baby? Dealing w/ infidelity. Just dealing w/ one is difficult to do.

Please remember that post partum hormones will have your emotions flucuating all over the map.

Trust will not happen overnight. Trust will build up over a series of choices, decisions and actions made by your H. The road will not be straight. There may be some backsliding.

The key is to surround yourself w/ support. The stronger you get, the easier it will be to think clearly and to make your own decisions along the way.

Cali

BW -

Congrats on that new baby!! I have been dealing with some of the same issues as you. My WH has been out of contact for a week and I believe him. I want to check up on him but you know I feel like at this point he is sincere and honest. It is hard to put trust into someone who has put done this to you but I believe that if my husband and I are going to make our marriage work we have to start somewhere. I am giving him that opportunity to rebuild that trust. He moved back in the day after DD and you know I did nothing but check up on him. I never gave him the opportunity to rebuild that trust. He got so frustrated he moved out and was going to file for DV. He is home now and we are working on things. He seems so sincere and I am going to give him this opportunity to rebuild that.

I say if you believe your husband is sincere, talk to him about your fears but don't do to much checking up on him. I think it will cause strain on the relationship. Work on you, keep yourself busy (with a new baby this should not be too hard right?), and work on communicating some of these things with your WH.

Good luck with that new baby. I am praying for you!!

Glad to hear all is going well. Take one day at a time, and try to enjoy your family. Do not worry about the future, right now. I know it is hard, but we will support you through this.

Believer, you may have missed some of SW's new development. Check under her new thread WH is a big fat liar.

How is your vacation?