You've been umm lectured(?) a lot today so what's one more?? I didn't read most of it, can't remember much of what I did read because when I got to this "Even though the thought of OW makes me sick, because of all she and her H have done to me" everything else became a blur and less important to me than what that one sentence says. All she and her H did to YOU! She makes you sick because of what she did to you but you have no problem with what she did to the woman you claim to love! I know "I did it too so I can't be mad at her for it" BULL CRAP! When you think about it now do you ever get mad at yourself? If you don't then you don't love your wife, if you do, then why are you mad at OW for what she has done to you, but not for doing something that could have destroyed your wife?

I really could just puke when I hear people claim the "care" about the MM or MW they are having an affair with. When you care about someone you don't tear their family to shreds.