Posted this over in Recovery but it is much more active over here so...

I did not want to thread jack Spider Slayer so thought I would pop over here and start my own thread. Hoping I hear from you!!

My WH and I are getting along so good. I think he may still be in the fog (or I believe he is still in the fog). He has been struggling with missing OW but you know it has been 1 week with NC and I expect that. I hope it is normal. If there are any WS out there who want to pop in and give me a clue here I would love it. Or experiences from other BS.

He is trying so hard and it makes me love him so much more. Instead of giving into his feelings of missing her he went to MB and posted. He is working through them and it makes me so proud of him. I so see glimpses of the GREAT man that I know and love with all my heart. Does this sound corney??

My biggest thing right now that I struggle with is the fear. Like SS post (over in recovery) I am afraid to open up to much. I am honest with him at all times and tell him my fear. I fear that his feelings for me will not return. I believe they will but still there is that fear that what if...(actually I believe they never left and are clouded by A).

How do you deal with this?? I know it is natural for recovery. I feel happy and excited about the new marriage I can have with my WH but afraid that it won't happen.

Please fill me in for any of you going through this...How long will these withdrawls/hard times last?? How long will I feel this fear (just to clarify it is not a fear of him contacting OW because I believe that he won't)?? Please chime in.

Sorry to ramble sometimes my thoughts run away with me.

Hi Hope! I really anxious to see what others tell you here since I am in the SAME EXACT boat as you are! I have such fear that the feelings wont come back. But his actions are different.

Anyone out there to help HOPE???