and don't know what i am doing.
gosh this is so hard.
everywhere i look, i see my son. he should be with me.

i allowed my h to visit with our s and he pulled out a temporary custody order and won't return him to me.

i will soon be off to return back to my home town, although it feels nothing like home to me anymore.

i keep beating myself up for not maintaining a custody order. but i guess who knew he would do this?

i don't know which way to turn yet. i keep thinking that i need to pack up all our stuff and just move back there to fight h. i did consider even to move back in with him. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" />

but i can't see that ever happening. i really am done with h. for him to take a disabled boy away from his mother. what in the world is he thinking?

so i am just venting here. trying to keep all my emotions under control. i meet with a new atty tomorrow and will know better how to proceed.

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Kismet,

I am Sharon SYMC on the other board.

Tell me about your child...how old is he?

You had custody and your H just got a temporary ruling for custody?

I am confused. Did you move to MI or not?

I went in to my atty on friday and he refused to help since i am in a financial bind. he made an appointment for another atty tomorrow.

I have not moved yet. I even offered to work things out with h (thus breaking my nc - he refused to return son to intermediary) he then sprung this on me. my h states he has tco and div papers, he couldn't find anyone to serve me yesterday. I came back to my home base to get things in order, but probably won't know which way is up until atty conf tomorrow. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

my son is 7 but autistic. i have been his daily caretaker (for physical needs but then again h hasn't paid much support either!) for 5.5 years.

Kismet,

I am so sorry for what you are going through.

Are you sure that his TC paperwork was legal, or possible something that he pulled off the Internet?

I am glad you are seeing an attorney tomorrow.

There is nothing -nothing! more important than your son!

Hugs!!!

h sure talked as if its all legal. and offered to show me but i couldn't look at them and still not lb him. now the statement that he could have anyone over 18 serve me kinda surprised me.

i am going to get my baby back. i am hoping to bring him back to this town since he thrives here. so if i can avoid the move at all costs i will. that was my idea of being closer to h and working on our problems. i can see that h is still fogbound and doesn't want to work on anything. so i am done too.

i just need to get both my boys back to me. (my oldest son is staying w/h til the end of school and h is talking like he is keeping him!!)

keep my little one in your prayers, he is going to think mommy has abandoned him and i sure as h*!! didn't.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">keep my little one in your prayers, he is going to think mommy has abandoned him and i sure as h*!! didn't. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Oh, yes! I will...and hugs to you as well.

cell - he says we have a hearing for the 8th. i'm thinking (and i could be way off base) that since i took our son across state lines he is charging me with kidnapping.

or since i maintained nc w/h that i abandoned my oldest son.

also, since i do have limited income, he may use that he can provide better for him.

i am hoping that not getting served was for the best. i will take my atty advise tomorrow on how to proceed from here.

hey

how do i find the picture link and i will post a pic of us?

Picture link is here: Photo Thread </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">cell - he says we have a hearing for the 8th. i'm thinking (and i could be way off base) that since i took our son across state lines he is charging me with kidnapping.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">This makes more sense, sounds like whatever papers he has are just the filing for that hearing. It will outline what custody arrangements he is requesting and is not at all binding. Until that hearing neither of you has more or less parental rights than the other, which means no kidnapping, wherever you take the kids, either of you. Also means that if either of tries to keep the children from the other there's nothing either of you can do about it. That does look bad for the parent who is denying the other, if there is no defensible reason behind it, such as to protect the child from abuse.

Your income should not pose a problem. Child support will be arranged if you get custody to even out any difference in income.

Not getting served only postpones the inevitable. If several attempts are made to serve you and fail, then there are other options. In my state you can be served by publication, wherein the notice is given in the local newspaper for 30 days before the hearing date. This would be in his local newspaper not yours, so it could happen without you ever seeing it and the hearing would go ahead without you.

I'm not an attorney but I have been a similiar situation recently. Your attorney will inform you better than I, of course, but I thought you might like some idea of what might happen in the mean time to put your mind at ease.

aaahhhhhh! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

it has been a very frustrating day. all morning was spent contacting attorneys and everyone saying there is nothing I can do since I dont live in this state, and financially strapped. and i can't do anything from my state since he filed here.

wwwwweeeeellelll! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
I found someone to represent me. and he says he can handle this as i wanted. but everything takes so much time. of course, i have spent every last dollar i had and still owe him more in a couple weeks.

i will keep you posted.