I posted this in the Divorced/ Divorcing forum yetserday ( I seem to spend most of my MB time there for some reason) and didn't get much feedback so I'll try here. Any and all comments and/ or questions are welcome. I think.

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I made the 2 hour drive to OM's city and got some really nice digital pics of WW's vehicle in his driveway. You can read her license plate and the numbers on his house. The garage was open and his vehicle was gone. Ran some errands, don't get to the big city very often, and went to Kinko's and made prints of the pics, a set for me and set for my attorney. Went back by and WW's vehicle was gone but OM's was in the garage, door still open. Made a note of his license plate number for future reference. He lives on a cul de sac so I had to make the turn around and go back by. Decided to go back and double check the plate number (had it right the first time) and when I made the turn around and came back OM was in his side yard talking on his cell phone, probably to WW, maybe the police but I pay my taxes and I can drive down any public street I want, right? He stared at me and I stared at him and rolled by slow. I had promised those that knew I was going I would not confront him, not time yet I keep getting told. So I was good and didn't even flip him off or anything. Those around town that have seen him have told me he looks older than his 54 years and I would have to agree. He is 11 years older than WW. He bears a remarkable resemblance to WW's deceased father, a little larger but his face is pretty close. I asked her after D-Day if he was a father figure and she just grinned, now I know he is. WW was back at her house when I got back to our little hamlet, unusual for her- the pattern has been she would come back tomorrow a.m. in time for work. She left before 1:30 p.m. today. Maybe things are starting to cool off some.

There's not much to comment on...but then I don't know your story either. How about a link so this visit makes sense in context? Wanted you to know I had read this....keep posting. Ask some questions.

You forgot the "looks just like pond scum" part.

WAT

WAT: That would be ancient pond scum.

SF: I have been looking for an earlier post where I told my story but haven't found one. I know I have written it several times and always think things like long or rambling or babbling idiot. In short, lets see if this is possible, my W moved out while I was at work and then told me at my office what she had done, that she wasn't happy and wants D, who her attorney is, and that there is noone else. My first clue we had a problem. I got my D papers 2 days later. I started hearing rumors that she had an A about 7 years ago and I have had that confirmed by 2 friends that admit she told them, WW still denies to me. Then I found out about her current OM. WW works in administration for the local school and OM works for the state education dept. He lives about a 2 hour drive away. She says she didn't start "dating" him til about a month after she moved out but I have evidence that she was with him over 2 months before and I'm sure there was an EA by email before she moved. She says her attorney said its OK as long as she keeps it out of town. I have done scorched earth exposure except my kids and she told them and showed them his picture. They are very unhappy with her. I have them now for the first 6 weeks of their summer vacation. I have told Her I love her and want to work things out but I'm not really sure that is the truth. She hasn't expressed any interest in recovery of our M and continues to see OM and possibly the first OM too. I'm looking at the every other weekend plan w/ my kids when the D is final and that is the last thing I ever wanted. I understand that I wasn't meeting her ENs but it would have helped if she told me what they were.