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WW and I are seperated. She swears up and down that she is not having contact with OM. she left to "find herself".I have been Plan Aing my but off for 6 months and she doesn't seem to be responding. She said she doesn't want to work on us until she finds herself.We do see each other , kiss and hug ,small talk,trying not to love bust. the trouble is i'm getting veeeeery tired of trying so hard with no results.Should i try plan B?
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What "results" to you expect?
Hint - this is a quiz.
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I'm hoping she will miss me enough to figure that our marriage is worth saving and to take a break from this rollercoaster ride.
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What things have you identified that YOU contributed to establishing a poor marital environment that allowed an affair to start?
In other words, why would she miss you? She obviously found reasons to NOT miss you.
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I think she would miss our time together with our son (this is a big one),and hopefully the new me i've created via plan A.talking,affection,showing an interest in her.....hopefully
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OK, now we're getting somewhere.
So, you ID'd some ENs of her's that you previously were not meeting?
Did she help you identify these, or did you figure them out on your own?
Have you communicated your new insights to her and have you been able to demonstrate these improvements?
What love busters did you formerly commit that you now have stopped?
Who takes care of your son? Did you move out or did she?
WAT
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sorry need to go for a while thanks
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