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#1143191 06/04/04 12:32 AM
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I am very concerned for Empty right now.
He seemed very very upset that I showed up and found out that he had been lying to me this whole time. He was having some tests run at the doc's today and then he was suppose to go to work.
He has not shown up to work and I know that OW was leaving to go back home.
He called me several times last night to tell me he loved and missed us.
He is alone right now and I can't get a hold of him.
I am very worried about him. I don't know what to do.

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Hi Lucidity,

What plan are you in now? A, B, ??? You have both hurt each other at different times. He is afraid to try again with you but maybe not completely lost. What are you willing to try for him vs him and the chlidren?

is the OM out of your life yet?

You will treat him based on where you want the R to go and what you are willing to put into it.

Like he did when he was waiting for you, he had to tell you how he felt and wait for you to respond.

Time, patience need to be on your side. Pray for a clear mind and a calm heart.

All the best.
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<small>[ June 04, 2004, 01:13 AM: Message edited by: lucidity ]</small>

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I have not been in any kind of a plan.
I assumed H was in plan B that was what all the no contact was.
Wow, was I wrong.

<small>[ June 04, 2004, 01:34 AM: Message edited by: lucidity ]</small>

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Hi Luci,

Would you like to be in a plan? If so, which one?

Here's another question: When you were in his shoes, how did you want to be treated vs how you treated the BS?

If you can look past your hurt and look for hope & help, it may be beneficial.

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Plan A him lucidity.

I chatted with him online the other night, for about 30 minutes (maximum), and one thing he was adamant about is that he really doesn't want to get a D from you.

Karen

p.s. How was the time with your sons? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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Time with my boys has been wonderful.
It has been so long since I was with them alone.
The youger of the 2 keeps staring at me and touching my hand and rubbing my arm.
He tells me about every 10 minutes how Prettyfull I am.
He is so beautiful,
It has brought back alot of memories of my childhood and what it was like when my mother left me.
I remember her occasional visits and how they made me feel.
I hurt for the boys and the pain that they have endured all this time.
The older of the 2 is wise beyond his years.
You can tell he has kept his father together this whole time.
He is such a little man. I had a talk with both of them and apologized for failing them, I asked them to try and find it in their hearts to fogive me for hurting them and their Father.
I told them I loved them and I will always love them.
They are so beautiful..

<small>[ June 04, 2004, 01:29 PM: Message edited by: lucidity ]</small>

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lucidity,
How about an update?

(I haven't heard from H2Y in several weeks either.)

Y'all are in my prayers.

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