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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by worthatry:
<strong> I expect Mearns was describing recurring thoughts or fears that you can't shake.
Actually, what Mearns poem originally meant to me was the recurring "presence" of my XW and the affair. She won't leave me alone! Read: I had trouble NOT thinking about the whole sordid situation despite logically knowing that I was the only sane one left standing. (I posted this on D/D in April of 2003.)
WAT </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hey Dave,
If you are saying that your XW still tortures your thoughts at times, I can identify with that.
Hope all is well with you...
<small>[ June 04, 2004, 10:17 AM: Message edited by: Always Hopeful ]</small>
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Wow, AH! Howzit?
To answer your question, well yes, sorta.
It's not so much that XW specifically tortures my thoughts as much as it is that the whole episode - including OM's and OMW's and the kids' behavior/reactions - is too frequently on my mind.
But it is getting less as time goes on.
But hardly an hour goes by that I don't think about "it" and how bizarre it all still is to me. Maybe I'm violating my own Rule #1 by still trying to make sense of it all.
Or, perhaps I want to be "right" and that hasn't yet been proven to the infidels and my XW's family and (some of) her friends who apparently have embraced the new union.
I expect I'll be fully cured ("right") when it all finally collapses; or when sufficient time elapses, if it doesn't, and I don't care to be right anymore.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I was listening to morning DJ's "Mark and Brian" </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">ummmm...Pepper, you into rock music? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> That's cool for an old chick like you. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Your friend, Suz
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