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I am at my wits end and need some advice. I found out about my husbands affair on April 14th. We have been trying to get past it but the OW will NOT go away. She has moved away but has come back a few times in hopes to see my husband. She still calls him at work, tells them she is someone else so they will patch through the phone calls. She calls me to see if it would be okay with me if my husband could come and see her son ride motorcross. The woman is out of touch with reality and doesn’t know where to draw the line as to what is appropriate and what isn’t. I am fed up and not sure how to handle this situation. My husband and I have both told her to not call, no anything. We are trying to put our life back together. It’s almost like fatal attraction. I need some advice as to how to handle this situation.
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Two words... RESTRAINING ORDER
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like orbit said...get one and fast.. the OW on my side tried to be my friend... told me she liked me and that we're so cool together.. YES! can you beleive it? eeewww
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Yes I can believe it because she is doing the same thing to me. When we've talked on the phone she keeps saying stuff like, we have so much in common, and your not the *itch she thought I was, and she just can't handle someone hating her. Like I told her, get use to it. She even asked if I could ever forgive her. I haven't even forgiven my husband, I mean really. She's off her freaking rocker and I just don't know what else to do.
What do you need to prove for a restraining order?
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Time to get her out of your life. Go to court and get a restraining order. We have had a couple of people here that had severe problems with OW. One OW tried to kill the WH, and one beat up the BS.
In California you can go to court and get before a judge, and get an order for free. Check out your court system.
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Your husband shouldn't be taking phone calls at work from his ex-mistress. Tell him next time she calls, he gives her one warning that if she EVER calls him again, he will get a restraining order against her. He caused this problem--it's up to him to STOP IT. If she ever calls your house again, I would immediately hang up on her and even tho it may be very inconvienent change your phone number and have it unlisted for a year. She has no place in your life or in your marriage!
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She is telling them that she is someone else so they will transfer the calls. He's told her the last 2 times she has called to never call again. But she's still finding ways to get through to him. We changed his cell phone number so she doesn't have that, but she has mine! So we are in the process of getting that changed. Because of where he works they have to transfer the phone calls. And she's smart enough to know he's told them to not transfer calls if it's her. His work found out about the affair and he was suspended for a week, without pay, because of inappropriate use of the email. So like I said now she is using different names so they'll put the calls through.
I'd love to get a restrainig order but that takes money and with his suspension the money just isn't there. God I wish this would all just go away!!!!!
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Check with your courthouse. You may be able to get a restraining order with very little, or no money.
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