Well, I just got a response from the OW's H.
Just a quick history (you can read it in Recovery), my H had EA with old school friend. When I found out, and told him to end it or leave, he ended it. Just like that. After her telling me that I had effectively ended their friendship, she made the mistake of sending my H a new email addy for herself, but didn't send it to me, strange since we were friends too. My H forwarded it to me, and I responded. Anyway, the whole story is on another thread.
In that thread, I was advised that my H needed to send a NC letter, and that I should tell her H about it. We did both. The letters went out Tuesday. We haven't heard from her, but her H emailed me this afternoon.
Wow, according to him/them, I am a lying, insecure, controlling b***h who obviously needs a psychiatrist (I am seeing one for chronic mild depression, which she already knows). So, because I see a phychiatrist, I MUST be crazy, y'know? He just sees EA's as FRIENDSHIP and thinks we must all (MBers) be nuts if we have a problem with that. He also gave me their home number (I already have it) so that I could call him to verify that he is the one sending me the email, and so that I could discuss this further if I chose. Silly man. He doesn't realize I also have the phone #s and addresses for his mother, brother, and both of their employers. I could raise a fuss if I truly wanted to, but I didn't want to. So, my honest, unemotional letter to him was responded to with anger and hatred ... and I'm not fully convinced he's the one who wrote it because its an addy she has used before.
Now, my H is out of town for a 5 week class for work. He'll be home in just over a week. I have been trying my hardest to not burden him with any of this (or as little as possible) so that he can concentrate on his class.
This email was only sent to me and NOT to him. I know I should forward it to him. But it tears me up inside to do this to him. I know, he hurt me terribly, but it hurts me to hurt him, too.
Anyway, I sent a short response to OWs H, thanking him for his open and honest opinion of me, even if he is wrong. I wished him happy with his wonderful wife, told them they deserved each other, and asked if his W enjoyed the NC letter. I also told him that I would give my H the phone number to call and discuss if he wanted to. It was a meaner note than I meant it to be, but 100% nicer than it should have been.
My H doesn't allow ANYONE to talk badly about me. He just about punched one of his friends (his very best friend) a few months ago for saying something less than complimentary about me, and what he said was pretty minor. So, I know how angered my H would be by the email I just received.
I'm really upset, even though this is what I half-way expected, and I was wondering how many of you have gotten attacked like this even though YOU are the BS?
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