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I thought everything was ok
#1144288 06/07/04 06:57 PM
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I was finally able to get the OW phone number and I am now lost in my own discust. I thought that they had only been talking to each other for a couple weeks, but I'm really wrong. It has been over 2 months and during that time there are lots of calls and a few long ones.

I thought that everything would be ok between us, but I see that it is very far from ok. I can't believe that the wonderful man I married has died and this is what is left. I am so hurt I just want to run away from him. I just can't believe this is all happening. I'm so lost I don't know what to do.
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Welcome to marriage builder.

The good news is whether WH goes away or not...you will survive the pain and eventually the pain will go away. Now you are full with emotions, i bet you can even think straight.

First thing you must do is read all the article in this site. Knowledge is a weapon. Get that book "Surviving An Affair"...it will help you to understand more on what you must do next.

In an affair...WH, OW and BS, each has its on symptom.

Trust me those symptom sounds very much the same if you have been reading and listening to all the stories in here.

You are at the beginning stages...this is the time to gain as much knowledge about the affair as you can.

You can do this...you will be fine...all of us has survive the affair.
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I've always told him that's the one thing I would not put up with and I love him, but I don't really want to make things better if he has done something he shouldn't have.
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#1144291 06/09/04 07:16 PM
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That, of course, is something only you can decide. However, you can always get the big "D". You may only have one chance to save your marriage.

You should at least purchase and read Surviving an Affair, and continue to explore this website, and let your emotions and shock and hurt subside a bit before making a decision that will change your life.

Saving your marriage is perhaps more difficult than ending it, but there are many who have been through this who say their marriage is better than ever. But, don't delay in reading the book, because it gives you a path to follow in the process, and your "gut" instinct will lead you to make mistakes that will make the recovery longer and harder.

Wishing you well...

SD

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