after finding out he indeed is having EA and letting a whole day go by and him knowing I won't be going anywhere.....

He sent me this email before coming home (I would have talked to him about it when he got ehre, but he left to work on his moms house and i didn't get to read it until after he left the house)....:

"Just wanted you to know that I have never kissed or touched "Corrie" in an inappropriate way. The feelings I have for her warrant such activities but I have not and she has not. She has had very little to do with all this and I am solely to blame. Possibly I played on her emotions and her issues with "Bill" to get her to feel things for me, who knows. Just the same, I ……………………………………

This may not mean much to you but I had to say it."

I told him yesterday before finding out that I don't trust him, and today I told him if it's going to start working for us we have to be completely honest and open about everything. Augh so is that what the idoit is trying to do by sending me this email? I know you all know, but it really hurts to read this. WH really does some deep feelings going on here. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> As you see nowhere does he mention if he is going to call it quits or not.

He is at his moms house and she will be seating him down and talking about what all he is doing and how upsetting it all is (she knows everything). I pray he doesn't shut her out and really listens.

So... should I take this email as his sign that he is opening up and possibly willing to listen to me if I (w/o any LB) that he needs to completely seperate himself from the OW..? I don't even know if he wants to. He hasn't said anythign to that effect. All he has said is he does not want a divorce,... well the stupid needs to know he can have both- right?

Any suggestions?

<small>[ June 08, 2004, 08:25 AM: Message edited by: Doing His will ]</small>

Suggestion?

Start Plan A.

Yesterday.

Not only that, but breathe a little bit. He has thus far shown some restraint. Surely not as much as you would have liked, I'm sure, but there is a good sign there.

So read up on Plan A. Read up on Marriage Building in general. Spend some quality time introspecting. Take a good hard look at your marriage and figure out what things brought you to this point. Plan A will not save your marriage. It will help you to keep from driving him away further while you get to work on repairing and improving your relationship.

You got some work ahead of you. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

dewt

I have started plan A, with regards to setting a plan of action and attraction, with no whining, crying or begging- kind of thing. I just haven't set down the part where you make it known that the A has to end, because I have no clue if he wants it to or not. I don't know how to verbalize this part with him since he has been so distant and not wanting to discuss a thing.