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Wife and I are communicating, but no resolution.
My Plan A is a failure so far. Every time I bring up the subject of trying to get her to stop the relationship, she gets defensive and blames the affair on me...
Going to sign up with a MC tomorrow without my wife who betrayed me after 20 years of marriage.
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Joined: Mar 2004
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ST-maybe it is how you bring it up?? I don't know how you do this, but if you are accusingly doing it she will probably get defensive and turn it back on you. I believe you just have to try to fill her needs and stop LB. Next time you want to bring up for her to stop A, don't tell her she has to stop it. Instead tell her how you feel. Start by telling you know you have made mistakes in your M and you are making changes so you don't make these mistakes in the future. That you feel your M could be wonderful and you are just hurting with the continued A. I'm not an expert but I hope you can use some of this.
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Joined: May 2002
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shocktreatment,
Your Plan A may not be such a failure, after all. Almost all WS blame the BS at some point or another. It's very normal.
What are you doing in your Plan A?
How do you bring up the subject of her stopping the A?
Have you exposed the A?
When was DDay?
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