Okay eveyone. This is just too funny. My WH has been writing to me and leaving flowers. So today I saw OW drive by. So guess what? I pulled flowers out of the trash can (nice roses). I put his letter with them and took them down to OW's house.

I knocked on the door and BH answered. I gave him the roses and the letter. Told him to give it to his wife. This is just too funny. Can't believe I did this.

Gooooood for you. You are such a smart girl with so many smart ideas. This may know the OW out too. One stone for two birds.

I'm laughing too hard. I got the roses out of the trash, and gave WH's letter to OW. It was just too much.

What do you really want with WH?

Divorce him or save the marriage? If it is for sure that you want to divorce him then i think you should continue with the contact, be nasty with him and at the same time proceed with the legal stuff. Show it to WH that you mean it.

If you want to save the marriage then stick to plan B. It is a great feeling giving WH back those flowers but it is not scoring you any points in getting WH back. Your action has given them a story to talk bad about you.

You really need to think where exactly you want to go and stick to those plans.

You are a good person. Do not let them get to you and do not even let them know that they are getting to you.

Stay strong. You are better than them.

Believer, I'm sure that felt good and I had a good chuckle out of it, but please stay dark. I'm sure after the glow of your reaction wears off, the pain will re-emerge, maybe greater than before.

I can't agree with getting nasty, cuz your soul won't let you live with that. We aren't what we think we are, but what we think, we are. Keep the faith, stay dark, keep posting.

Plan B will give you your emotional distance over time. It's all theory for me right now, but I will be a plan B'er shortly. Protect yourself, seek comfort from God.

I gotta go to work now. Hope your day is a good one. Wait a minute; I have a computer at work. I’ll check up on you there.

I'm tired of being nice. It felt so good, and I'm still laughing this morning. But yes, I will go back to Plan B one of these days.

zizzy - I probably should divorce him. I have been getting angrier lately.

Hi believer,

You gutsy gal you! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Don't worry about the surprise visit.I really think that once in a while,like hopefulinNY did to her OW, that we all have that opportunity to put aside our nice anti-LB faces and let 'em have it one way or another.In the grand scheme of things,I don't think it would have made a difference to your WH and who are we to say that the OP in our lives don't deserve a little dose of reality once in a great while? They darn well do IMO!

I know that my WH was very angry with me for calling the homewrecker but you know what,at the time it felt really good to let her know that I DID exist,that she can't just swoop in and sleep with MY husband and pretend that he doesn't have a family.I called her to let her know that in more ways than one.

Back to business as usual.

o

I thought Plan B was going dark on your own WS.

Is interacting with the OP or OPS really breaking it? Especially since your not having conversations with them.

IN any case, At least it seems to have given you some much needed laughter. I'm sure you needed it. Sometimes you just got to bend the rules a little.

Although, I wouldn't recommend making a habit of this type of thing. Other then a chuckle, I doubt it will help your situation much (if at all).

However, it Is very funny!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I'm smiling too.

Well at least I bet he won't drop by any more flowers, or letters. Hehe. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Believer, I would rather my WH deop something to me. I felt like I am forgottten. He never had a wife at all. But I am still thinking of him. Do you have any idea for father's day gift?

Believer,

I can't believe you did that? OMG, I had a good chuckle too. That was a good one, I think. I am worried though. He might want a D now, are you prepared for this? Just wondering where you stand as far as your feelings for him. I am sure OW didn't know all, just like mine didn't. Somehow it worked to my advantage, but I knew when I went there and when I came home and called my mom that I had laid it all on the table. I figured I had blew it all honestly. At that point I didn't care. I hope it works for your advantage and not hers.

HINY

believer,

So.... was ow there when you gave all this stuff back to WS?

The only thing I would have done different would be to give the letter and flowers to ow in person. The best way to know ow gets the real picture about WS activities.

You have been so nice. It's okay that you got mad. I had a similar instance, only I called ow and told her what was going on between FWS and myself. Funny thing is she acted like FWS was cheating on her. Then left FWS a voicemail saying she wanted to have sex one more time.

It was catalyst that was the beginning of the end of the affair. FWS got bumped off the fence that day.

Maybe this will be the thing that changes the whole situation. I just hope ow saw those roses and read that letter. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Love in Christ,
Miss M

oops. double post

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Oh yes, she was there. I gave letter and flowers to her BH and asked him to give them to her. And the flowers didn't look too bad, considering they had been in the trash can for 2 days. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

believer

You've done so much for so many here on the "boards". What you and HINY have done, and CV55 just had a LB fest with her FWH, and probably most BS's here have had similar, but less entertaining <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> experiences. We are only human, and like a bottle of shaken champagne, cannot hold it all in, all the time.

I told CV55 we should call those experiences "FOGBUSTERS".

So, congrats on the Fogbuster, now, behave yourself <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> and get back to Plan B!

All the best for you!

SD

Believer -

I am so pleased to hear you chuckling again. I personally think what you did was awesome. For a couple of reasons.

1) Janice needs to know what your WH is saying and giving to you. So she can give him crap about it, and generally make his life more uncomfortable.

2) Because I don't think it is healthy for you that he is dropping off cards and flowers. And if this does deter that behavior in the future, so you can be dark and in Plan B without such disturbances, the better for you.

I say good all around. You have the BEST stories. This one is as good as the last time you went to his place to reconcile, with the letter he gave you then, and he was . . . well, otherwise engaged.

You rock! I'm so glad you are chuckling again. Be sure to let me know the next time you blow Coke out of your nose from laughing, OK? That just makes my day! I wish Brett was still around to tell us more of his hillbilly stories, and Hee-Haw, and the Dukes of Hazard, and his one molar . . . oh, the good ol' days!

SS

believer,

I am so glad ow was there.

You have been so good, so generous.

But sometimes its okay to shake things up. No 2x4 from me. I think this is all good. You did the right thing. A person can only take so much.

Now that the truth is out you can go back to your plan B. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Good luck and God Bless you. You are worthy! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Love in Christ,
Miss M

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by believer:
<strong> Oh yes, she was there. I gave letter and flowers to her BH and asked him to give them to her. And the flowers didn't look too bad, considering they had been in the trash can for 2 days. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I wonder how this made the BH feel. That was my first reaction. Can you imagine you are sitting in your home with your spouse and someone drops by with damaged roses and a letter from the person your spouse cheated with?

I believe in notifying the OP's spouse. But I don't believe in taunting them or hurting them unnecessarily.

April

roan ward -

Her BH and I are great friends now. He calls me every day or two. I have tried to encourage and support him. Sometimes I feel worse about his situation than my own. He went to Iraq, and came back with no wife, and no job. His wife has completely abandoned their 12 year old daughter - she drops by about once a week for 30 minutes.

Luckily his mom has moved in with him to help. He is working 2 jobs and taking care of daughter, the shopping, cooking, everything. And he is struggling financially on top of everything.

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