Sounds to me like she was asking you questions because she was setting you up. Oh, and by the way "love" is never supposed to hurt anyone. This woman sounds somewhat like mine. Unfortunately WS doesn't see this yet. And now she's pregnant to complicate things. If the baby's his I'll be more than surprised. He is still so in the fog. She is cruel, vindictive and hateful. Uses her children, phony suicide attempts, threats and violence to try and keep him. Wacko woman.

In following your story I would have to say, by all means fight her to the end. You have no gurantee that even if you do take the plea that it will be over. Don't let her think for a second you are going to let her get away with this. Even if you lose you will prove to her you're not going to take any of her crap!
OW has been vindictive from day one. Nice to your face but behind your back, well you can imagine. Wanted to kick my a**, (she destroys my life and she wants to kick my a**?), said she had respect for me (before, during or after she was s******* WS), told everyone I was dead in bed. One time WS came over to see me and she kicked in my window, walked right in my house and started hitting WS. Said he'd never ever see his f****** kid. When I asked her to leave she refused. She talked to WS for about 5 minutes and he came back in the house and said he was leaving with her. I didn't call the police but I should have. I didn't want WS to get upset with me. (I know, it shouldn't have mattered). Now I absolutely regret not having done so. I should have tried to put a stop to the A from day one. When WS was in the hospital she threatened me about seeing him and now he's in jail (for DWI - 4th offense) & she threatened me about that too. I had enough and told her PO - yes, she's on probation already - that she'd had better never threaten me again. I haven't heard anything since.

As long as you have the love and support of your wife you can get through this. I wanted to hurt WS when I found out about OW but I couldn't. I love him far too much. As far as forgiveness, I will never, ever forgive OW. I will hate her until the day I die. No matter if WS comes home or not.
And you can be your own detective. Trust me I have found out more about OW on my own than you could ever imagine.
Good luck!

<small>[ August 19, 2004, 12:31 PM: Message edited by: whiteknight1 ]</small>

It does seem that no matter what you do you will always have doubts. If you knew OW would just go away it would be easier to walk away from the whole stupid mess and take the plea. Yeah, some judges are so crooked it makes you wonder. Even OW's PO defended her. I wanted to hit her, but OW hasn't done anything since. Too bad all OW would just go away, forever!

Ouch...that last comment about judges...think that over a bit. Isn't that like calling the kettle black? Sorry but you're coming off here a bit unstable yourself and out of control. I posted my response before I read the situations about the other women. I think it might be time to take a look inward instead of focusing on wacko xow and everyone else in your world.

It seems so many people you come in contact with are mentally unstable, liars, incompetent, hypocrites and adulterers. What's the deal with judges? You know all of them? Let's see there's the xow, employees, friends, prosecutors, lawyers, judges Doesn't that seem a bit odd.. When you're pointing your finger at so. so many people, you need to realize that three are pointing back at you. This all got started with YOUR behavior.

Now that I think about it, you might want to take the plea and run. When all this comes out in court, it's not going to be good either way. And the details will be public record. I feel sorry for your wife..she has so much to deal with.

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<small>[ August 19, 2004, 12:33 PM: Message edited by: whiteknight1 ]</small>

<small>[ August 19, 2004, 12:34 PM: Message edited by: whiteknight1 ]</small>

Hope this doesn't come across as curt and rude, because it's not intended to be that way.

But it seems to me that you've got alot good posts and advice in this thread. To me, someone who has "followed" your plight, it appears that you are looking for someone who will give you advice that agrees with what you are thinking of doing and you just haven't seen it yet.

There have been posts here for both sides of this situation (take the plea or fight it out). Granted this is not an easy situation, far from it. Prepare as best you can, get the best lawyer money can buy (don't know that a relative is the best for this, but that is your choice) and then go to court. Play it by ear and use your best judgement.

That may be the key to this whole situation. Your judgement got you into this predicament and now you don't trust yourself or your judgement. If that's the case, then rely on your wife. It appears that you are a good businessman. If this is true, then use your own judgement. Either way, this situation may not be over. If the OW decides to continue to harass you, you can not control that but only your reactions.

Good luck, best wishes and God Bless you as you will need it.

RH <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Tell us how your day went WK.
I am concerned about you & want
you to know that me & others
here really do care. we do.
focus on some good things in
your life-no matter how small-
just be thankful for something.
today is today-dont get ahead
of yourself-just focus on 1 day-
today-tomorrow will be here
soon enough...
hold on...

<small>[ August 19, 2004, 12:35 PM: Message edited by: whiteknight1 ]</small>