Give it to me! Not that I don't know most of it - and I know there have been threads here before - but I'd like to get some input again. And yes, this is RESEARCH!! Let's do some fog busting...

What stuff did your WS tell you that every other WS on the planet has spouted?? I can start!!

To my BS:
I love you but I'm not in love with you.
Its just too little too late.
I never meant for this to happen.
We've just grown apart.

To friends and family:
The OP is my soul mate.
A complete listing of all of H's faults.
It's my life and I have to do what makes me happy.

To the OP:
I gave my husband SO MANY chances. I know he says he can change, but I know him better than he knows himself.
I was a PERFECT wife! I mean, no one is perfect, but I tried so hard to do everything for him!
H and I have grown apart, we just don't want the same things anymore.
H and I don't have anything in common.

Is your book gonna be out before mine? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

"I didn't think you loved me."

Here is the link to that thread! I think this thread has some GREAT lines in it! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

WS Fog Talk

Hope 4, I think YOU said this to me on Redbook !!!!

"My H is never going to get it. We're just too different."

I love you, but just not romantically...

I never want to see my kids again...

We have so much in common...

I left this marriage a long time ago...

Why cant I just keep her and you? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

**Shameful blush**

Yup pepper - I know for certain I did.


WAT - are you serious??? Are you really putting together a book?? Yea - but yours will be something along the lines of the mothership and aliens - and STILL be from a BS perspective. So NYYYA <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Thanks Mom, that WILL help!!

I've been working on it on and off - mostly off - for a long time. It'll be an expanded version of my Quickstart Guidelines. Maybe this winter..........

Well - Mine will be DIFFERENT - SPECIAL - you know, UNIQUE. Because you know, I LIKE your book idea, but I just dont feel THAT WAY about it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> LOL!!

Ok - so it sounds like yours is along the lines of 'cliff notes'??? LOL!!!

Hey guys - nevermind - if you have more contributions, make them under HopefulInNY's thread. It's got lots of 'good' stuff in it!

THANKS!!!

Hey Hope, Those were the exact sayings out of my wifes mouth once affair started. Do you know her? LOL. No, these WS's are just so darn predictible and all seem to have the same excuses for their behavior. Too funny. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Yup Juke - I was talking with a BS on the phone yesterday and she said something about how the betrayed spouses probably speak from their own script too. I told her No, I think the WS's seem to pretty much all come out of one mold, but there seems to be more of a variety of BS responses.

Hope, I thought them all but never said them. I wasn't going to put my H through any more pain than he was already going through. I wouldn't have been so cruel and I think that's why we started to recover so quickly.

I'm not saying I didn't come up with some incredible fogese to my H, because I did. One of the things I said was "He's really a nice guy. You remember him, you liked him. He hasn't changed."

H said "He's pond scum. I don't think I like the person who ****** my wife."

I noticed in another post that Lisa didn't say them to her H either. Maybe it's because we both have long marriages and tons of history with our spouses.

Jenny

Or maybe you're conflict avoiders - or not as verbal - or 'nice ladies' (defined in the dance of anger) or or or...

I would sooner say it's a personality thing than a 'length of marriage' thing. It was MY feeling at the time that by being open I was being honest with my H. I certainly wasn't trying to hurt him more! In my fog I felt that those who weren't saying those things to their spouse weren't really being honest with them - because their spouse didn't really know what was going through their mind.

Yup - isn't the fog great. NOT!

Ooooh yes... conflict avoiders. That would be more like the real reason.

I wanted to be honest and I was about a lot of things but I could never come out and SAY some things. Of course, H used to pick up on my mood and lots would come out anyway.

Jenny