Since my H's XOW is such a loser, she couldn't get a cell phone herself. He got her one in his name and she agreed to pay the monthly bill. That was a year ago. 6 months ago, after asking her several times for the money to pay her phone bill and getting NONE my H put her phone on "stand-by" meaning she could not receive or make any calls with it. He couldn't just cancel it without paying a high fee for breaking the contract. The 6 months time frame that they allow for stand-by is up and we got a bill for her phone today! I AM NOT going to just bend over and take this! We ARE NOT paying HER bill! He is saying he will see what he can work out with nextel and if he has to he'll report the phone stolen, will that work? All total from the beginning to the end of the phones contract it comes to over $1200.00! It burns me to no end to have money that WE could use to go out to dinner or whatever spent on that **** STILL, a year AFTER the affair is over!

Dear TML,
I don't know if you can take any legal steps about this, if the contract & the cell phone are in your H's name.
But try to get this over with ASAP. Maybe it would have been better to just pay the fee for breaking the contract and to get this out of your life.
So inform yourself if there is any way you can avoid paying the bill - but if there isn't, just pay it, cancel the damn thing and get it out of your system. The sooner there is nothing left to remind you of what happened, the better!
Maybe your H can do some extra work and buy you gifts from the money he earns that way.. to make it up to you...
Good luck to you both.

<small>[ July 17, 2004, 09:25 AM: Message edited by: brownhair ]</small>

Well I know how absolutely irritating this is. My WH has spent all his money on OW for over a year. Now he is starting in on his retirement bonus, and next it will be the retirement savings.

I'll be lucky if it doesn't hit the $100,000. dollar mark. These WS's in their fog can completely devastate you financially.

I'm trying to come to grips that the money is gone. It is just so unfair. I would not say anything about it to your WH. Let him worry about it.

I doubt there is ANY recourse! YOUR H signed the contract and the phone and it's service are legally his responsibility.

I have Nextell......it cost me 200.00 to have my Daughters phone turned off permanently (early disconnect) SEEMS you should have done that vrs. paying for it for 6 mos. which adds up to more like over 300.00?????(just service NOT any extra time or calls)

Have you yourself had contact with Nextell? or are you going by H's info?????

Unfortunetly and I know your NOT going to like hearing this....Your H is having to pay the piper so to speak. BAD ACTIONS= BAD REACTIONS. thus not only a very high emotional price also a $$$$$ one.

Blessings,
Atruheart

if he reports the phone as stolen, he will be a liar, and you will lose any legal ground you now have. if you want the phone back, send a certified letter requesting your property back. if letter is ignored, then maybe you can report it as stolen.

as for the money, small claims court is a good choice if you truly want the want. of course, that means you'll have to see her, but that probably is the only way you have of trying to get the money you're owed.

oh, and if you do have it shut off and pay the termination fee for her non payment, you can include that cost in your lawsuit.

<small>[ June 13, 2004, 11:05 AM: Message edited by: kriste ]</small>