In a course I recently took we put together personal mission statements - or purpose statements. When I'm feeling lost - I just have to pull mine out and go 'oh yeah' that's why I get up in the morning, that's my purpose. It helps to keep me on track. So often in life we wish-wash through what it is that we really stand for - we metamorphasize with the situation and change our ethics to match.

If it's on paper - and we've really thought it through - the next time something comes up that we question what the right move to make is, you can take a look at your purpose statement and see if it matches your morals, your character - who it is you want to be. If it doesn't match with who it is you want to be - then by doing it you undermine your very soul. Having a purpose helps to keep you on track. No one wants to live with regret and self loathing.

Maybe we can do this here?? Lets start with some questions:

Who are you? - list your assets as a person, what makes you YOU. List your faults/areas for improvement! We all have them!

Who do you admire - and why? - think of some people that you admire, and then think about why it is you admire them. What qualities or character traits do they have that you relate to, or wish you had?

Who do you WANT to be? - Think about your funeral - what do you want people to remember you by, what kind of image do you want to leave behind?

Let's start there!

Hope - I have a personal mission statement too. A couple years ago, our pastor asked this question -If you were to die today, what would be changed in the world? Who would miss you?

So I tried to live my life really making a difference - spent more time with kids, and step kids, and step-step kids. Contacted family more often, and did lots of volunteer work.

This whole infidelity thing got me very much off track. And I have been off-track for over a year. I want to get my life back. That is what I want.

I want to focus on what I am grateful for. I want to look at the noble and honorable things people do, and not get mired down in the muck. Hope I can soon move forward.

You will!

These are great questions!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Who are you? - list your assets as a person, what makes you YOU. List your faults/areas for improvement! We all have them![/QUOTE]

I am a christian woman,my deepest desire is to have a close relationship with our Father Lord God. I am a "truthful" person and try to be a good example of my faith. I care for others and sometimes forget about the real order of things in my life....example putting others before H and M. That has been the hardest thing to over-come for me in my life so far.

In my life my priorities are as follows:
1-God
2-H/M
3-children
4-others/family
5-work
6-self
My BIGGEST faults of past before D/D were as follows:
1.speaking before thinking
2.judgemental thoughts
3. not speanding enough time with God.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Who do you admire - and why? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I admire many people, all for diff. reasons.
I admire the Lord for his love and forgiveness of me.
I admire my mother for her beauty, wisdom, loving spirit.
I admire my H for his fortitude and honesty in reguards to our life together and for his love of Jesus Christ.
I admire my children for their goals in life.
I admire Nancy Reagan for being a great example of a woman who loved her H with all her heart.
She showed so much dignity....
I admire my sil for being who she is (a woman of God) and helping me thru this A~ grief period.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Who do you WANT to be? - Think about your funeral - what do you want people to remember you by, what kind of image do you want to leave behind?

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I would call this my legacy....I would first off want my life to be viewed:
By my children and Grandchildren as one of a mother and grandma who displayed loyalty, love, compassion and truth, who above all else loved the Lord God.

For my God that he sees that I was a loyal servant, that I helped others not for the "rewards" but simply because it was what he asked of me.

For my H that I was a faithful strong woman and that I am probably NOT ever going to be easily replaced. That I showed him forgiveness and compassion....and even though he was at one point in life trying to destroy himself, I was patient and loving and relied on God and his power and mercy to redeem him, even when he thought he didn't want it.....

For my family and friends that I was given the gift of grace and mercy by God to forgive and love again. That I could be counted on in times of happiness and sorrow.

Above all else, I want to leave behind the legacy of a woman who loved and trusted God in her life and lived to see all he did for her!!
He works all things to our GOOD.

Blessings,
Atruheart

I just got this quote in my email today. I think it fits!

If you don't know where you are going, you might wind up someplace else.

- Yogi Berra

Good Topic.....

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Who are you? - list your assets as a person, what makes you YOU. List your faults/areas for improvement! We all have them!
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I am
- honest
- loyal
- romantic
- funny
- patient
- intelligent
- a natural leader
- trusting
I need to
- finish my degree
- need to be less jaded/complacent at work. (Getted laid off twice in a year will do that. Thanks 2002!)
- Play better basketball. I'm not nearly as good as I'd like to be. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Who do you admire - and why? - think of some people that you admire, and then think about why it is you admire them. What qualities or character traits do they have that you relate to, or wish you had?
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I admire
- my Mom. She has been through a lot in her life. She has never once let me down. She gives as much as she can, whether she has it to give or not.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Who do you WANT to be? - Think about your funeral - what do you want people to remember you by, what kind of image do you want to leave behind?
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I want to be:
- A great husband
- A great father
- someone's lifelong best friend
- A Christian
- Someone that people admire


Ethan