So why is it so wrong to want revenge on the OW. I would love to inflict the pain on her that she has inflicted on me, but so much worse. I know that my H is to blame also, but this woman will just not leave him and me alone. It pisses me off to no end that while I am here trying to put our life back together she is out gallivanting around doing whatever it is she feels with no qualms about anything. I would just love to tell everyone that is associated with her what a lying deceitful tramp she is. And if I was to actually go forth with what I’d love to do, I am the one who looks bad. I am the one who’s not taking the “high road”. What is wrong with all that. I mean how can someone just have no repercussions for being that way. And yes I know my H is to blame also, and yes he’s heard all this. Can someone explain to my WHY we as the BS are expected to be the bigger person? Right now I say screw being the bigger person, but then what…..

I’d love to be able to sue her for whatever that is where you ca prove she caused something, not sure what that’s called but if only things were that easy!

It will do no good. Be sure of that. It could do harm, to a number of people.

We all have these fantasies. They come and go, sometimes with more force than at other times.

Martin Luther said that we cannot stop the pigeons from landing on our head, but we can prevent them from building a nest in our hair.

Don't feed these thoughts. Let them go. We cannot stop them, but we can let them go. Don't let them build a nest in your hair. Go read a book.

Please check out my post. Simply put, the one seeking revenge comes across as a bored, lunatic with nothig better to do.

I am sorry all this happened to you. I don't blame you for wanting revenge. My W wants revenge to.

You want revenge? Make things work as best you can and be happy. Because the truth is, OW is a useless slut.

You are winner. You have value. Simply put, a shiny jewel (you) has no business climbing back into the dirt.

You are better. Treat yourself as such.

Back in the day, the BS, if a man, could sue the OM for "alienation of affection" because his property (his wife) was taken. I think in a few states those laws have just recently been taken off the books.

LJB, I had a revenge fantasy not 10 minutes ago, and I am not sorry for it. It is natural, and I don't think wrong, to desire revenge, it's only wrong to take revenge. I do try to keep those dark thoughts at bay, because I think they mostly stem from a desire to be in control, and like the serenity prayer says...

GC

I know it won’t do my any good but man it would feel so good. And I think what frustrates me most is I am normally not a vengeful type person. But this woman just burns me to the core. I think because of her attitude about this whole thing. She says she doesn’t regret any of it, and that just burns me because she was once a BS herself. How could someone inflict that kind of pain on someone else knowing full well how deep that will hurt?

I know that it’s killing her that he’s with me and has turned into a complete ******* to her. But after some of the things she’s done to me since D-Day she’s lucky he’s stepped in and tried to stop it, to no avail by the way. And I am just supposed to sit back and take it all??? When do you finally stand up for yourself?

Thank you for the encouraging words whiteknight, I just wish I felt like that shiny jewel, cause right now I feel like trash that keeps getting kicked to the curb.

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Thanks Whiteknight.....Your words are encouraging and I know I just need to look the other way. Tomorrow is a new day and I'm sure I won't feel like this. And with your encouraging words makes it easier. I haven’t heard any kind of encouraging words in awhile! THANKS <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />