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Even though I am new to this site, I have been dealing with this for over a year. Below you will find my translations of what the WS says and what it means in English. </font> - <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I don’t know - - I don’t want to tell you.</font></li>
- <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I don’t want to hurt you - - I don’t want to deal with knowing that I hurt you.</font></li>
- <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">It was just a phone call/Email - - It was just the only phone call/Email you know about.</font></li>
- <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">What don’t you trust me? - - I can’t believe my spouse is buying this!</font></li>
- <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I never meant for this to happen - - I never meant to get caught.</font></li>
<font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Is it just me or is there anything you can believe from a WS as long as the OM/W is still in the picture!
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I did not see the "The greatest Fogese sayings your WS used" thread when I posed this. However, It still feels good to get some of that off my chest.
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LOL - I think your translator is good!
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Uh, I don't know your spouse zippy, but I think your translator is probably a little off frequency...
I don’t know sometimes means I don't know.
I don’t want to hurt you sometimes means I don't want to hurt you.
It was just a phone call/Email means I don't get it yet.
What don’t you trust me? sometimes means I'm tired of being checked up on.
I never meant for this to happen sometimes means I never meant for this to happen.
One of the worst parts of recovery was convincing my wife that my words meant exactly what I said...no more, no less. After me lying about the affair for so long, it took a while to get there.
So, when you feel that his words may mean something else, why don't you just ask him instead of jumping to conclusions?
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<small>[ June 14, 2004, 04:31 PM: Message edited by: Pepperband ]</small>
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Pepperband:
<strong> One of the worst parts of recovery was convincing my wife that my words meant exactly what I said...no more, no less.
Low Orbit~~~ THIS in NOT a marriage in recovery~
The OP is still in the picture here....
WH is talking nonsense usually the entire affair and into early recovery. After that .... more credibility to H's words may be assumed.
MHO
Pep </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">
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Sorry, I missed the last line.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by LowOrbit:
<strong> Sorry, I missed the last line. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I know, I could tell....
Her H is unfortunately still in the A.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Octobergirl: <strong> And....zippy is a man. o </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">oh <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> I see .... or I don't see. I think I knew that, did I? Ginko Biloba anyone? Pep
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LOL Oopsie Can we help you back to your room Mam? We have some nice strained peaches for ya! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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Thanks LowOrbit and Pepperband, I am so angry. I am still destroyed. I want to make sense of all this but I can’t.
Until February I wrote my W a letter a week and mailed them so they would come in the middle of the day, the middle of maybe a very hectic day, 4 kids ya know. I do dishes, help kids with homework, put kids in bed, read stories, clean up a bit, all after a day in job I HATE, because I love my W and family. I don’t understand how she can take the things I do in love and give them motives I never had, just so she and the OM can trash me. And on top of all that she calls him the hero.
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