I have read ncwalker's thread and runaway's. The similarities in my "story" and yours is starteling. Runaway: I gave you my e-mail addy, use it. Please contact me soon. I think my hubby needs to talk to your hubby. ALL OF HIS FEELINGS are so similar to my H's.

I also had an A with a man from my gym. A workout buddy. And was accused of SEVERAL other A's at gym. Humiliating for me to go back...but I love lifting and am so frightened I will get "fat" again. I tried switching gyms too. H came with me. I still felt yuckie. I bought weights and videos and stuff and workout at home now. Going good. We can offer each other some "at home workout support." Since working out at home can be easy to put off if you don't have to be accountable.

I also want to give you some advice about needing "alone" time: don't! When H is working try to use that to be your alone time and when H is home...BE WITH HIM...not just physically but emotionally. Spending every single minute together helped my H deal with his "anger" (that another poster hear accuratley described came from his fears), and it helped me with withdrawl and fog. My H even drove me to school and picked me up. It feels suffocating once in a while, that is why it is good to talk to another FWW...I understand!

And to ncwalker: you said in your other thread that you get nervous about working an opposite shift from OM...same in my situation...and my hubby and I use our cell phones a lot now. Can you call your wife from work every couple of hours? This helps on many levels. It is not face to face so sometimes we can express our feelings better. Also, it may be meeting one of wifes needs (conversation? is she lonely?). I urge you to make many calls a day. Don't have to be long or special...just "hi, i miss you, need to hear your voice..."

Have you two read any of SAA yet?

Good luck, we will pray!

xoxo
mom

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