I have been married for over 15 years. My wife had a brief emotional affair with my best friend. My wife and I were with my best friend and his family quite often. Our children are very close.

I discover the affair the same day that they first met in private. Since then the affair has ended and my wife and I are very much in love. My friend made the decision to stay with his wife. After that decision was made my wife decided to stay with me.

I have several issues addressed that will help me bring closure to the affair and the future with my wife. I am having a hard time resolving the issues in my mind. They are as follows:

1. Should we try to rebuild our relationship with my best friend and his wife? Our children ask about getting together with them quite often.

2. My wife called him while I was at work to help her bring some closure. Should I have a right to have been with her when she called him?

3. Should I have been a part of that phone conversation?

4. He apologized the night that the affair came out in the open. I saw it as an apology that he was taking my wife and told me that he loved me like a brother. Now that it is over between them should I expect him to ask me to forgive him and to aplogize that it even happened and for what he has put me through and admit that it was wrong?

5. My wife kept a diary during the emotional week between the time I became aware of their feelings and the day that it ended (June 1). Do I have a right to see the diary?

6. My wife and friend told each other that they loved each other. Should I expect my wife to retract that statement to him? She had no problem telling me that she was not in love with me.

7. Should I expect my wife to remove all reminders of him in our life? For example his sweatshirt that we still have.

IMOP,,, ask yourself what means more to you.. Your marriage or your friendship? I have great friends as well but I know that if one requires my wife I would end that friendship as I would expect any friend to do me. I have had a friends GF make a pass at me,,I replied that Iwould never do that to my friend and that I am a very happily married man with 2 beautiful children,, never told friend and they have since married, friends wife has never again made a pass at me and knows exactly where I stand with my best friend. In other words your friend has also betrayed you and any friend who is capable of that is not a true friend,, that is how I believe I would have felt.