Hello,
Brief background... I'm BS, in Plan B and praying hard, but lately I just felt all was over and it was time to move on. (I think my LB is empty.) WS (H) has filed for D and it will be final soon.
Anyway, my H (WS) has broken through and made contact now & again, and recently the contact (such as messages on work phone # that I can't change) seem to indicate he wants to try to work on the M or at least talk about it. (By the way, WS absolutely refuses to communicate with the intermediary.)
I know from reading SAA and the boards that WS is UNlikely to ask to try/work on things with a huge show of remorse, etc. So, these mild requests may be what I've been praying to happen. (Also, SAA talks about the 2 spouses mailing NC letter together, so how does this happen if you don't talk to WS until A is over? I'm confused...)
Also, it's hard for me to tell whether this is a request to try to reconcile, or an attempt to manipulate me because he's not getting what he wants in the settlement process. (He's tried this before...saying he will work on the M if I agree to sign away all my rights to any settlement, etc.)
I'm thinking of asking H (in a very nice way) to clarify what he wants based on the last message? To talk about us & the future, or what?
Any advice / help?
Thank you!
P.S. I'm reluctant to give too much detail because my H was reading my posts during the pre-DDay and post-DDay events and was very cruel about my broken heart/soul. So, this is a different user name than my original user name, and I prefer not to give details in case he still lurks here.
