For the few of you that may remember my story about three or four weeks ago I wrote that WW had kicked me out. To give you the short version of what has traspired since, she did kick me out then she didn't, she saw a lawyer but didn't file, we made up and we were trying but her addicition to OM was to strong, we made up again, decided only alternative was to relocate, MR. E and eldest son, 11, go out of state to secure new home when we get home WW has taken our two small children, 4 & 3 and run away with OM, week later, this past Sunday I get a call at 4:00 a.m. and it's WW... seems the darling man she has taken up with has beaten her, taken her car, and left her and my babies about 400 miles from home. Mr. E went to get them brought them home and while things have been hard with many new revelations we are now on the right path which includes heavy doses of MB and I think there is now great hope. One very positive side note is OM is now in jail!!!

Wow. That's a lot of drama, even for this website. Good luck to you and your family.

I know what you went through was rough, but in one respect you're blessed that it came down that way. Talk about a fog lifter! Wow! There are a hundred guys on this site wish that their wives would've gone through something this drastic to break the fantasy they're in. I'm not saying that the beating was good by any stretch of the imagination, but I think you know what I mean. She may come to you as her knight in shining armour now, instead of however she was viewing you before. This is your opportunity to be the real hero here. Don't blow it with any LB or anything like that. I'm sure she feels pretty goofy right now as it is.

I wish you the very best!

I am happy for you, Maybe she will think twice before having an affair again.

Yeah, as much as it hurts me to think that she was abused there's nothing like a good slap up side the head to bring things into focus. At this point she is so scared of what could have happened to her and our babies that she won't leave my side. Boy that's nice!!!

MR. E,
Happy for you. What a ride, Huh?

Sorry it took Mrs. E getting the preverbal 2 x 4..............literally.
Can you say... Fantasy Land go bye-bye?

Hate to admit thinking this way, but whatever it takes.

Sad though what it does takes to get through to them many times.
(Put the rocks down, not condoning violence here).

However, All I can say about him being in jail is.........YES!
(If others don't like that attitude, ...Oh well, then don't share it). He put Himself there, with NO help from you or me.

Truly, With him really out of the picture, that can only help your cause 1000 fold.

Only wish your children didn't have to be exposed to these very grown up issues, even if that is the price to get your family back together.
The important part is you ARE back together. YEA!!

In any case, Now take that hope you've regained, add in a positive attitude and come up with a clear plan for recovery.

Although this IS great news and a new start....... realize that you've still got some rocky times to face ahead. Just be ready to face them head on.
And yet, if you face them together (and are on the same page) you can make it.

Continued success!

<small>[ June 17, 2004, 03:34 PM: Message edited by: top rope ]</small>

Yeah, as much as it hurts me to think that she was abused there's nothing like a good slap up side the head to bring things into focus.

I really tried not to laugh but couldn't help myself....sorry.

Anyway, a good dose of reality does work wonders.

....a slap upside the head. I'm still laughing.

I know that it probably scared the hell out of both of you. You see who she called when she was in real trouble.


God Bless

<small>[ June 17, 2004, 04:15 PM: Message edited by: d_rose ]</small>

Oh E It's hard to deal with the abuse of course. My H has to deal with the fact that his wife was raped and that's crap too. If you ever wonder if there is true evil in the world look at these two OMs and then if you wonder if there is true stupidity look at FWW and I. Oh God.. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

I am so encouraged you are by her side still, you really are her White Knight, as is my H. I guess I could say that where I wondered if he really loved me for the right reasons, I don't wonder anymore. Do you realize how AWESOME you and he are???

It is wonderful that you have hope for the future but there will be so much to deal with. The website you requested is www.drjoecarver.com but you will mainly find articles there. I do post on two other private sexual abuse forums which I'll share with your wife if it applies. Possibly someone else can weigh in with a safe DV/abuse forum/site?

Glad you popped back E, sorry about the circumstances. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> KB

Mr. E,

Your first post should be required reading for all WWs still in the fog.

Thanks to one and all for the kind words. Things continue well and yes having him in jail does relieve a lot of stress.

Mrs. E is really into MB right now and that is very encouraging as well. I told her that it is the only reason that we have made it this far and that is the truth. I am a true disciple! We are far from out of the woods but I am living proof that there is always hope no matter how bleek things look.

Knewbetter, Mrs. E e-mailed you on my other post to you if you haven't seen it yet. She is really looking forward to sharing with someone that might be able to understand her since she doesn't understand herself at this point. You two seem very similar.

Always remember IT'S A GREAT DAY TO BE ALIVE!!!

Finally a success story...i dont care how it turned out!! It is still a success story because another marriage is saved today. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I am happy for you. Keep up the MB program. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<small>[ June 18, 2004, 10:46 AM: Message edited by: zizzycool ]</small>